TLDR; Was an asshole to an awesome fiance. Nuked her comfort tests until she told me to leave. I left her and our 2 year old daughter last night. Do I go radio silent and give her space, or go back home and try to make things right? (eldest daughter is with my family right now)

Been 2 years since I last posted here. Would like the help of seasoned vets to help unfuck myself.

Background: 28, 5'10 220 lbs, 20% bf. Bench 315+, Squat 405, DL 585, OHP 225, Pendlay Row 315. Haven't tried to go above those numbers since I'm cutting to sub 12% bf and afraid of going back to snap city (was semi paralyzed for the better of 2 and a half years, currently 9 months out of surgery). Lifting 6 days a week, cardio twice a week. Going to cut down on lifting, increasing the cardio, and getting back into martial arts and sports. Engaged to fiance of 4 years, 2 year old daughter from her, 10 year old from prior relationship.

Her: 28 5'5 120, 8 pack abs and 40 inch booty, 285 squat and 355 deadlift. She earns more and definitely has higher SMV at the moment. Was my best friend since we were kids, good nurturer, loyal, low n-count, wealthy family.

Read: NMMNG, Models, The Art of Seduction, Book of Pook, 3/4 of the way through MMSLP (should have read this years ago), and starting How to Win Friends and Influence People.

When we first reconnected 4 years ago everything was great. Sex on-demand, anything I wanted, whenever, wherever I wanted. Would pump and dump her before work, for my lunch break, and come home to be jumped on. Things were going good, we were both on the same page and I was sailing us to new horizons. She got pregnant 2 years later, and unfortunately I was rear-ended by someone going 60+ mph and was pretty much paralyzed.

She had to be the sole provider while I couldn't do shit. Adopted a near invincible frame and became OI and indifferent to pass the shit tests. I knew that if I showed any signs of weakness she would come in to finish me off. Nutted up and got myself through a tech school for IT while helping out as much as I could, in any way I could. Was still getting sex 2-3 times a week. Got surgery to fix my injury in September and started a new career in InfoSec. (Note: to anyone currently going through an injury, stop fucking around with chiropractors and physical therapy... I wish I had gotten my surgery as soon as possible instead of wasting my time and money)

Currently:

Have been owning my shit at home (well, one of her mother's houses) getting shit done around the house (DIY shit, chores, cooking) being a great dad, killing it at work, increasing my social circle, leading the family in finances (investing, paying off all debts to go FIRE, saving up money to acquire assets) and everything else, and just being an awesome masculine presence (or so I thought).

Sex is pretty sparse, sometimes she initiates, sometimes I do. When we do have sex it's always passionate though. Two weeks ago I was in a conference call with some execs and she came home early. I gave her the "look" as she peeked in the door and she pretended to hesitate, but proceeded to blow me and ride me. It was pretty fun watching her switch from trying to be quiet while I was speaking, to going crazy when I was muted. After the call ended she threw me on the ground and almost gave me death by snoo-snoo.

The problem is that I haven't completely turned off my "rock" frame to an "oak" frame. I've been a fucking asshole to my fiance and eldest (at times). Completely failing comfort tests and telling my fiance to "deal with it" or "that sounds like a personal problem". I've been fucking up on building an emotional bond with her and instead of listening, I get irritated and try to "solve" her problems for her. She's been pulling extra shifts to help her mom out and working 6 days a week so she's always tired, not to mention shes stressed from some health issues that have been popping up. I began acting like a female and started pulling away because I wasn't getting the sex an alpha male deserved /s. In hindsight, I should have read the sidebar and reset with her daily instead of constantly playing the mean card.

Last week she came to me desperate saying we needed to talk, how I don't love her, and how I'm being an asshole. I went full rambo and nuked the situation by cursing and telling her there weren't any problems and that she was crazy.

Ever since then she's been stone cold, pulling away from me and telling me not to touch her. She's told me multiple times to get out of her house and that we need time apart. I responded by apologizing for how I've treated her and that I want us to remain a family. She says it's too late for that and she's already made up her mind. I tried to stay in frame by telling her that I wasn't leaving and that I wanted to work on our relationship. The entire time I was using AM and would never take her seriously, so if she called to tell me she expected me to be gone by the time she came home, my response would be AA which results in her cracking up and laughing. I kept up the kino, and while she would try to swat my hand away and tell her to stop touching her I would do AA and then shoot her with a nerf gun, or pinch her on the butt which ensues in her chasing me around laughing.

Last night she said she was going to the gym early and that her brother and I would have to bring our daughter with us. I told her I wasn't going to the gym and instead I was taking our daughter out. She kept badgering me about where I was taking her and I just told her we were going to go eat. After fiance left to go the gym she called and asked if instead of taking the kid out, if we could wait for her so all three of us could go. I told her to enjoy herself and to have fun (Yeah I missed an opportunity).

On the way back home she texts me asking if I want her to bring back anything for the baby, I just tease her saying "look, the kid just had some lobster and filet, we don't want your scraps peasant". She responds positively again. I get home and go straight to the gym to lift and do cardio with a buddy. When I come back I go to the room and shes awake on her phone, I sit on the bed and start massaging her legs and feet and try to make small talk. I tell her to turn over so I can get her back and after a couple minutes of me massaging her butt and shoulders she tells me, "you really need to leave the house". I respond with why I don't want to leave, how I love her and appreciate her, and how I want us to be a family. She keeps stonewalling me by saying we're through, so I just text my brother to pick me up.

EDIT: Called her to say good morning and to see my munchkin on FaceTime. She seemed pretty receptive on the phone. Radio silent after that interaction.

Usually my way of dealing with blow-back like this is to just go radio silent for however long it takes, but this time it's different because there's a kid involved. I want to reconcile with my fiance, and to be there for my daughter, but is going back home the right play? I've looked through old posts and most of them say to NEVER leave the house, and that if she is being a cunt to just stay positive, keep owning your shit and she will eventually come around. Sorry for the emotional vomiting and thank you for your help.