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LTR of 8 years shows no interest in sex whatsoever

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July 10, 2018

So I've been with my girl for over 8 years. Sex has always been unsatisfying, but no now it just sucks. Once every 3 weeks has become the norm.

I've been lurking on RP for over a year. I've read most of the sidebar, I do lift and I'm self employed. My social life kinda sucks and I never really go anywhere at night. Maybe that's why she feels no need to jump on my dick. I'm kinda lost on this journey since I try so fucking hard, yet never get the results I'm aiming for. 3-4 times a week would be an ideal sexlife for me. Right now I'm so far off tho that I'm considering to end the relationship.

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Title LTR of 8 years shows no interest in sex whatsoever
Author NateRobinsonIII
Upvotes 7
Comments 61
Date 10 July 2018 05:17 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
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long term relationshiplift

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you've been here for over a year, there is no advice in this thread that you haven't already read many times over. You know what you need to do.

Here's a dumb "mental" trick that helps me take action on my to-do list: make a "promise" to yourself about something that needs to get done.

Pretend the promise you make is to someone really important in your life (like a child you do not want to disappoint). If you made a promise to, say, your girlfriend's little sister, you would be damned if you broke it, right? When I make a promise to myself, I pretend I made a promise to my son (8) or daughter (2). And I don't break promises made to my kids.

Yesterday I told myself (promised myself) I would lift at 5am before work. I overslept and missed my workout. It bugged me all day. I felt guilty. Afterall, I did just break a promise to someone I deeply care about (myself). As soon as I got home, instead of eating dinner and sitting on the couch with the family, I got changed and went straight to the gym to lift. I HAD to make it up to myself.

Now, what if you promised yourself you will go out alone one evening per week? That should be pretty easy to do. Way easier than running your own business, I know that much.

Just yesterday I made a promise to myself to put my phone away until the kids are in bed (I spend too much time on Reddit). I put the reminder on my phone. As I was eating dinner at 6:30pm, my phone alarm went off with a note that said "Put your phone away, faggot." The phone got put away and the alarm will stay on until this becomes a habit.

Change how you operate mentally and find a trick that works for you. Just stop being a lazy bitch.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

What I don’t get is you’ve spent over a year on the sidebar but still don’t comprehend it. Have you thought about seeing a doctor to have your head checked out? The 12 levels of dread should be complete by now. You should be educated, swoll and pounding other chicks by now. Instead you’re what, proud that you haven’t touched your dingaling in 4 weeks??? Wow congratulations!!!

You’re in an LTR of 8 years with a woman who won’t fuck you and when she does she sucks at it and those are your words. What is it going to take for you to man up and quit being a pussy? End your damn relationship with her and undertake some serious personal growth. You don’t need to disappoint anymore women in your life.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine7 points8 points  (19 children) | Copy

“I never really go anywhere at night. Maybe that's why she feels no need to jump on my dick.”

Yep. She’s not attracted to you and knows you can’t go out and get some strange if you tried.

Competition anxiety (dread) is a powerful tool and you’re not even ulitizing it. Plus all the other benefits like abundance mentality, living your own life, having a great time, having a social life, making connections, working on your game and social skills, meeting new people, etc.

Only way to live with a woman is to be able to live without her.

Why stay? Does she provide any other value ?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

Yep, dumping her will likely fix all your sex problems....

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No way. It will happen again and again unless he changes.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (4 children) | Copy

Social life needs to be addressed before anything else. You won't be truly happy until you take care of that (no matter how often and how well you're getting laid).

[–]nutsforsluts0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Sounds like you never got laid very well

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Not since my last prison stay...

[–]nutsforsluts1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Cant beat that prison dick

[–]wkndatbernardus2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I'mma read! I'mma learn to read!"

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck off with your “I try so hard” bullshit. If this post is an example of how much effort you put into things you deem important, you’re a lazy fuck looking for a short cut.

You’ve been here a year? Read a bunch and tried so much? Prove it, pussy. What have you actually done and how have you failed? Give us that info and you’ll get some real advice.

My guess, based on your comments about being shy and anti social, is that you’re too chicken shit to push boundaries and express your true self to her.

You’re just a coward hiding behind an online forum and some male-oriented self help books, hoping wishing crossing your fingers that what you’re reading somehow rubs off on her.

Time to take some real action, bro.

[–]helaughsinhidden3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Athol kay: Married Man Sex Life Primer 2015

[–]justpickanyusernameRed Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Sex has always been unsatisfying, but no now it just sucks.

It doesn't sound like things were ever that good prior. Why are you still with her? What are you expecting?

Leave her and you will be forced to address this other problem you have.

My social life kinda sucks and I never really go anywhere at night.

Or, die sexless and alone. I don't really care. Just stop whining and do something. Figure out what you want, determine what it takes to get there, and then do it.

[–]SepeanRed Beret2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I'm kinda lost on this journey since I try so fucking hard, yet never get the results I'm aiming for.

How exactly are you trying hard? The only thing I heard is you lift. Is your diet also right so you’ve seen great gains? Wardrobe and grooming on point? Your social life sucks, so I assume you’re not doing any hard dread, so that’s one fucking obvious point you’re lacking in. When you’re with friends and family, are you a presence? Do you hold frame, pass her shit tests with AA, make decisions and lead?

Are you really trying, bro?

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

the moment when bullshitting and self reflection meet

[–]simbarlionRed Beret-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Sounds like trying too hard.

OP....It's work smart not hard. You're working too hard on goals from the fem imperative. Work hard on RP

[–]weakandsensitive0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You want to do both.

Work smart and hard.

[–]FeralRed2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Massive low effort post.

Do donedreadpirate's "cut the shit" stickied post.

Post the results.

You're full of shit and lying to yourself and us. That's unattractive.

Not married, no kids...why are you putting up with not getting what you want?

That's all I'm going to bother posting.

[–]nastynickdrRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Married Man Sex Life Primer

No More Mr. Nice Guy

pretty sure you havent read

[–]man_in_the_worldRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

My social life kinda sucks and I never really go anywhere at night.

contradicts this.

I try so fucking hard

You're a "Dancing Monkey" working "hard" only at the easy-for-you parts of MRP that don't challenge you, and which also don't risk challenging your wife. If you regularly follow other men's stories here, you will know that this almost never works, yet you took the easy path anyway and hoped for a miracle. Well, you didn't get one.

If you've really been seriously lurking here, you know what you need to do. But you don't want to do it, so you're here asking for an easy trick to sprinkle some alpha that will magically fix your shit. Sorry, doesn't exist, at least for shy beta you. Start over at the beginning and do it right this time, or leave now, find another woman desperately seeking a BetaBux, and we'll look for you here again in about five years.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wow. Just fucking wow.

Seems like you are in the front of the victim bus. Fuck collecting 200. You get Park Place

[–]nutsforsluts1 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy

Pornhub And masturbating homeboy

[–]JaDa19220 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I might be jumping the gun here, but.... 8 years, not married and no kids? Just leave.

If sex was never great to begin with, what makes you think it would be great now? And why make it sound like you just want it to return to "not great but more frequent" ?

Just say fuck it, go find someone who wants to get it on.

[–]helaughsinhidden-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

Common mistakes: -Trying hard! You are the prize and trying hard makes her the banker and you the loan applicant with too many needs. -Whine, beg, or pout to dry her pussy up -Putting her on a pedestal. Don't "give" more than she gives you. Compliments, praise, ECT should be a bit less than she wants. -Lack of kino (physical touching). Warm her up by touching hands, arms, small of back, thighs, neck whenever close and natural. Good slap on the ass works wonders too. Start to insist on a daily kiss lasting over 10 seconds. -Using porn. Huge turn off for most women if they suspect it, plus it robs you of your own sex drive and testosterone leaving you depleted. -Do something small but obvious. If she is already at a low sex drive (to you), you need to jump start her V. Take her to a shop to have her puck out lingerie, sex toy, flavored bj lube, or whatever. You will get to use it at least once that day, but don't do this often.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

“low sex drive” = myth

Add: “with him”

[–]helaughsinhidden0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

True, but she is still playing that card either way and he has to overcome the default setting

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yep Totally agree.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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