My dad and step-mom visited this week. It's the first time I've seen him and really talked to him much since I unplugged in January. It was interesting to observe his behavior towards my step mom and her behavior towards him.
my dad makes EVERY decision. He controls all finances, tells her what she will make for dinner. He tells her when they're going to bed. She NEVER questions any of it.
my dad does whay he wants, when he wants. He fishes all the time, never asking, not always telling her. She wouldn't dare do anything without telling him what, where, when, with whom and why. Likewise, she wouldn't dare plan something with the expectation that he will do it with her, at least without asking.
he loves her, and shows and tells her as much. No doubt that he had given greet his faithful commitment in return for her efforts.
he judges himself. If she criticizes something he does, he smirks and owns it unapologetically. Not a single DEER, no real response at all, doesn't matter what she thinks.
I only remember one argument between them growing up: she complained about cooking, cleaning (particularly after me - she once tried to keep me from going to one of my football games because I hadn't cleaned my room or some shit). He basically told her that if she has a problem with me, ahe can address it with him and he would decide how to handle it. If she's unhappy with the situation, she's welcome to leave his home.
My dad doesn't have the alpha characteristics of muscles, etc... he's maybe 5'10", 190lbs, does exercise including some lifting... but the frame on the guy is incredible.
Is this just the way men used to be before mass betaization? Maybe my dad is just a relic from days gone by?
Is this too much in modern society? I always saw my dad as a lazy asshole growing up. I can't imagine what he's thinking as I'm cooking, cleaning, changing diapers as well as being the sole breadwinner. I've always tried hard to not be like him... but i now see that he lives like a fucking king.