I discovered MRP about a year ago and it changed my life. I began to understand my wife and want afraid of her anymore. Over there course of the months I read the sidebar, began to lose weight and improve my wardrobe. I reset my attitude every morning, began owning my shit, stopped dumping on my wife and emotionally puking on her. I was quick to fix things and take care of things around the house and I began to take ownership of my decisions.
I tracked our sex life an used that to quantify results. I definitely went Rambo and, while being a dick worked, being fun was just as important as being a cocky prick.
This was all new and life changing. I had no idea about women before I found this sub. We went from a cycle of fighting and hurt feelings to no fighting because I wouldn't engage, at least not emotionally like I had in the past. The problem was that our marriage couldn't handle the dramatic change I introduced and she lost her mind, at least temporarily.
My wife accused me of DV, got a restraining order, and I haven't been home in eight months. We have been married 20 years, have four children, owned our home for 15 years and had a business together.
She and I had no contact for seven months and then she emailed me and we met in person to discuss details of divorce. We've met several times over the last three weeks and really enjoyed each other. We've negotiated and agreed on finances and parenting and are waiting for a meeting with our respective attorneys to finalize the divorce.
After our last meeting I sent her this text:
"I love you. I miss you. We can't be friends, it hurts."
My intention is to go no contact with her outside of logistics. I care for her and would like to reconcile. She had expressed a desire to remain friends but she also explicitly stated that there was no chance of us being together again. I realize that my path forward looks the same regardless, I improve myself and she or another woman will be a part of my life.
This morning I get a message from her asking whether she should sell or trade in our/her Suburban and how to get road stripe paint off. My initial thought is to ignore her since this falls outside of logistics. While I actually enjoy her and want the best for her I absolutely do not want to be her friend.
Where do i draw the line? What can I do to give our family the best shot at coming back together?