My wife and I have been together for 5 years and married for 3 and we have no children. Recently I’m starting to understand that she loves the idea of me but actually hates me in practice.
When we first met it was awesome, we’d go out all the time, have great adventures, be spontaneous, have great sex, get drunk and just have a good time all around. Then we decided to move in together and thats when things started to change a bit. It started with small things, like her not enjoying my music anymore or complaining about me wanting to go out. I’ll admit though I was a beta I didn’t see the signs then when I should have.
Fast forward our lives a bit we ended up moving to a different part of the US to get away from our hometown for a bit. I took a better job where I could work from home and she decided she would find something when we got out to our destination. Also we were engaged at this point.
When we settle into our new location and home I pick up all the bills for a whole summer since she cant find a job, cool, no problem, I’m a man and I can do that. She ends up getting a job and paying for some things, I still held a majority of the bills though. This is where the change really started happening.
Turn out she doesn’t like the way I dress, the music I listen to, the way I handle my stress, that I get to loud when I am happy or too quiet when I am tired. This is the big one here, I even for a time was convinced I was an alcoholic because she started not liking me when I drink ( I would maybe have 4 beers a week while I played battlefield on the couch to relax). I even started attending AA until I had some realizations about my “problem”.
She’s asked me to change so much and I have done it all but she’s still treats me and makes me feel like I’m a crazy person.
Fast Forward one more time, we are moving back to our home state because I got an amazing job paying way more and treating me way better. She just straight up does not want to work anymore, and she does not want kids, she wants to be what she calls “the angel of the house”. I’m stressed out right now trying to prove myself in my first few months of my new job and helping with the move back, and I am expected in the office the first day back in state.
I’ve confronted her many times trying to have some conversation about tit, I’ve admitted many times my faults and am more than willing to change them and work with her but all she wants to do is point fingers and not compromise on anything. Everything is always my fault and I’m fucking sick of it. These women in 1st world countries are so god damned entitled. I’m ready for the Red Pill but I don’t know what to do.