I started working out, didn’t say why.
I started eating healthy, didn’t say why.
I started wearing ties, tie clips, wool vests, and jacket to work and going out, didn’t say why.
Told wife I was going to a music festival, she looked at me saying “Who are you going with???”, I said “By myself, I might meet other cool people there”, didn’t say anything else.
I told my wife every other Wednesday and Saturday I am going out with friends because I need more social time. She asked if she could come, I said “No, it’s me time”.
What this means is that in the past 6 weeks, I have spent almost no time with my wife other than our weekly meetings to organize the week ahead, and time with kids.
And so two days ago, I get a long text about how she is proud of me for looking better, for working out, looking after my health, and then she emotionally vomits how she is not happy about the way she looks, and that she really does want things to work out with us.
This type of text is par for the course with our past “disagreements”. And by “disagreements” I mean, I would get butthurt about something she said, sulk like a little fucking child, avoid her in the house, and she would send a text to make up. I would answer the text, we would make up and hug, and then back to the way things were in under a month.
This is new territory for me. I am not butthurt, I am not sulking, I don’t avoid her (well, other than to get the gym and lift).
What I need to do is thank my first office for complimenting me and press forward.
I just don’t know what to say in regards to her emotional vomit about not being happy with the way she looks. Is this one of these mythical “comfort tests” I have heard about??