Today she got very passionate about how our 12 year old son "could go full scholarship" or even professional at basketball. We live in a rural community, mountainous community where regardless of the effort (or money) involved, this is quite unlikely. And even if it did/could happen, goals like this are very hard to measure over even the medium term.

For some context - he does do Parks and Rec basketball, and does other things (pretty much at my sole effort) - like hiking, skiing, I coach all P&R sports and take him to archery.

But she wouldn't relent about how I need to drive and have someone else coaching him at basketball and if I'm not willing to then somehow I'm lazy or can't dream big enough.

How best to deal with shit tests like this - ie goals that are difficult to impossible to achieve or at the very least hard to measure over a period of a few years.