Been together 6 years. I have been plugging away at the side bar like you guys have been telling me. My main 3 focuses for this month we’re
- get to the gym 4-5 days a week.
- practice STFU
- STOP operating in her (or anyone) else’s frame.
I have really been getting the hang of STFU. She’s trying extra hard to get me to react. Pull me into her frame. Trying to pick fights. I’m not having it. I have either been ignoring her (esp if it’s through text). Ignoring her. Changing the Subject. Or going and doing something else. The test have been getting less and less.
An episode happened last night. We had people over for food and drinks. It was a great night. But at the end of the night. We were all talking about going for a ride on my motorcycle. My buddies wife (who always hits on me so she doesn’t like her to begin with) said she wanted to go on the bike. I tell her let’s go (it was a joke we had all been drinking and I only have one helmet anyway)
She’s like let’s do it. My Wife says no you don’t have helmets and been drinking. We keep joking about it for another minute. My wife goes outside. And I poked fun at her to my buddy and his wife. I guess my wife heard and took offense to it. Came back in and tried to throw a fit. I tell her stop it.
She goes back outside and sends me like 5 text.
“I can’t believe my husband would talk shit about me” “So disrespectful” “If don’t want to accept me and my morals. I’ll leave don’t act cool in front of your friends”
Stuff like this I honestly don’t even know what she was talking about Bc it wasn’t even like that. So I just ignore it.
She comes back in and we all split ways Bc it was late. The shit continues. I keep saying to myself “you will not enter her frame” she starts crying. Fake crying. I don’t even know. I just keep dodging everything she’s saying. And treat her like a 4 year old mostly because she’s half in the bag and acting like one.
I finally grab her and start making out with her. She stops crying. Next thing I know she starts sucking my dick saying all crazy shit. Starts riding me. My mind has been blown. We always have sex. She doesn’t deny me usually ever. But this was different. This was the slut I have been waiting for.
I will continue reading. Continue working. I know this is just a little thing and I’m no where near where I need to be but I’m starting to see it work. My wife is a control freak and wants to have a say in everything. I will go buy a shower curtain and she will come home with a different one 2 days later because she didn’t like it. Stuff like that.
I guess my question is be where to go from here? Am i on the right track?
I will continue working. And reading. My next step is to really hone in on my mission and how to get a business going.