Last night we were looking for an old FB message and as she scrolled through we saw one from 5 yrs ago she had sent to a guy. Basically he’d added her & she’d messaged him to say what’s up etc, told him she was married with kids etc - nothing outwardly untoward but...
The guy was part of a group of guys/girls she’d lived with for 3 yrs at university. She’d years before admitted attraction to him but nothing had happened (and I believe that).
She also ended her message with 2 kisses, funny because she told me the other day she didn’t like putting even one kiss on texts to guys.
She also followed up his reply with a long response and a suggestion that they ‘all’ meet up soon.
It never happened and this was 5 years ago. I was full blue pill beta 5 yrs ago, for the record.
I teased her about the 2 kisses but showed no Butt hurt because frankly I’m not butthurt about this - this is not the point of this post.
I write because of what happened tonight.
I mention some flippant comment about how I used to tease an old coworker, and she from NOWHERE says “that’s way worse than me messaging that guy”.
Hang on a minute I said, where’s this come from?
“Because you were SO JEALOUS of me messaging that guy when it was nothing, and what you’ve just told me is way worse - not even COMPARABLE”
I honestly at this point could not believe what was happening. I started to wonder if this was my first look at the hamster through the eyes of Neo.
I mainly STFU at this point, but when pressed and pressed again I said that I thought it was mildly inappropriate of her to be private messaging some guy she’d admitted attraction to in the past, and suggesting that they all meet up.
The reason I did this is because I know if the tables were turned and she’d discovered a message from me to a girl she would have completely LOST HER SHIT.
Anyway at this point she lost it, and I mean lost it. Tears, shouting, almost screaming, jumping up and down, slamming doors “how could you think that of me” “you don’t know me at all” “your JEALOUSY is RIDICULOUS”.
If there’s one thing that annoys me like no other it’s a girl accusing me of jealousy when it doesn’t exist. I had no problem, it was 5 years ago but I did let her know it was inappropriate.
The way she lost her shit suggested to me that her hamster has been running madly all day, she feels guilty and this is her way of trying to pin that guilt on me or something????
It was really weird - can anyone explain what just happened and how to react to anything else she says on the topic?