Feeling Strange: Not Givig A Fuck

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-06-01T01:11:24+00:00

I can feel the honestly in your post.

“I’m guessing it’s the last thing to improve.”

Yes. Completely normal.

“I haven applied dread yet”

Dread can be “something” you do once you are experienced and start running serious Game, it’s also something that happens in the background (passively) as you improve. As your SMV increases, social skills increase, and your wife starts seeing that other women flirt with you, she starts feelzing the dread. Don’t worry about doing dread right now. It happens naturally.

“I’m starting to not think what my wife thinks”

Great! You will lose respect for your wife, I think it’s normal. She’s not what you thought she was... and now you are seeing the truth.

But it’s nothing to be bitter about, by using your new found Game skills and awareness of her true nature, have fun with her! Enjoy her feminine nature, her smell, her soft body, her laughter, her motherly nature towards your kids. As the polarity intensifies (your new masculine energy in the house), you should start seeing her fun, childish side come out now. She should get playful and be in a better overall mood. She should be dtf. Respect that aspect of her, not awalt. She can’t control that.

Treat her like a child at times, act like a father figure to her too sometimes they need that.

I suffered depression too and it is confusing. You are seeing the world in a different light now. When I came out of my depression , I had these big life questions also, start reading about “awakenings”, that’s what you are experiencing. You’ve been sleeping, and now waking up. Read the Power of Now also, about living in the present moment. The point of power is always in the Present.

Be carful not to get stuck in your head with all this confusion though, keep taking action. Keep up with your awesome lifts!

Good work. Continue to Increase your SMV and Game the fuck out of your wife - this will get you where you want to be.

Edit: Your title is accurate. Did you read the subtle art of not giving a fuck book yet? - there’s only so many fucks you can give.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-06-01T01:04:10+00:00

Why do my eyes hurt?

man_in_the_world · 2018-06-01T09:04:32+00:00

I don’t know what I want. I also am starting to genuine not care what my wife thinks about just about anything except matters regarding raising the kids. That’s a weird one for me.

... It’s quite confusing.

Previously, your motivations and actions were all built around trying to get validation from others, and in particular from your wife. This drops away as you begin to develop your own frame of reference and self-validate, but before you have fully discovered your own missions and frame, it leaves a motivational, goals, and sense-of-purpose vacuum. So yes, it is a normal stage in the process, which the majority of transforming men here report, and which you are now experiencing.

Many report a temporary decline in sexual interest as they stop needing validation through sex; most are unsure of their mission.

simbarlion · 2018-06-01T05:13:02+00:00

Snormal.

BobbyPeru · 2018-06-01T08:56:07+00:00

You’re on the right track, but it’s good that you realize you have a long way to go. This shit doesn’t get done in 3 months, but there should be definite progress in three months. It really takes a year or two to start seeing some real frame, attitude, and huge overall gains.

Where are you with sidebar readings?

wildnight98 · 2018-06-01T17:48:20+00:00

Can anyone else relate to this? Normal?

This is a sign of progress. Now that you realize that you aren't enslaved to her rules, desires, and whims, you see you have a lot of time and agency to do whatever you might want to do. But it's been so long since you thought for yourself that you've forgotten what to do. Your "ordinary self-interest" muscle is atrophied. You just need to start exercising it and it will come back.

The right path is to begin to "own" that you are the captain, and have to lead your wife and family. This will naturally cause you to consider what is best for them all, wife included--but as opposed to acting based on what your wife says she wants. You can and should take into consideration what your first mate says but ultimately it's your call, and often--especially with regard to emotional and relationship issues--women say one thing but believe another. That's why folks say watch what she does more so than listening to what she says.

My beta downfall started with depression, that I ultimately traced to undiagnosed injuries from two auto accidents. I feel you. Anyway, welcome back!

223552 · 2018-06-01T22:39:14+00:00

You are going through a process of change, you are internalizing new things, and letting go of some. It is normal to go through a flat patch, as you subconscious tries to re-calibrate. The progress is never linear, some go through cycles of anger, apathy, excitement, frustrations etc.

BluepillProfessor · 2018-06-01T17:11:43+00:00

The idea is to not give a fuck about your wife's bad behaviors. The idea isn't that you don't give a fjuck about her. That's great for mgtow but not great for marriage.

Right now you are mad because you have learned that your wife is not your mommy. Learn to appreciate her for what she actually brings rather than what you thought she was.

And welcome to the real world.

Title	Feeling Strange: Not Givig A Fuck
Author	Acerp321
Upvotes	7
Comments	16
Date	June 1, 2018 12:28 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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