UK, M30 with LTR HB7 for 6-7yrs. So I'm a couple of months into my full awakening - I've been fairly RP for the last several years but have only had the RP focus to channel my self improvement through since mid March.
Basically, been devouring, internalising and implementing the side bar and reading list for last 2 months. Been trying to analyse my performance over the last several years but it's difficult to peel back the ego and see myself accurately. The sex had declined in recent months in both quantity and quality - I think it's a case of drunk captain and resentful first mate.
Have basically upped my game with working out more, eating better to lower bf%, keeping the house tidier, being on top of stuff - basically owning my shit much more. Have started recognising shit tests (and even some comfort tests) and passing these with increasing ease. Have tried to STFU more and acta non verba. Basically been working on my SMV and slowly gaining some increased dread without going Rambo.
Results were mixed at first but following LTR spotting some IOIs from various sources and some 'we need to talk' style frame testing which I passed, it seems to be building in momentum. I'm much more OI and self focused and I don't pout when I get knocked back which I was very much guilty of before.
Anyway, basically trying to get across that I'm very much a work in progress but I'm enjoying my journey and now have focus.
Here's the problem: I got ill about a week ago (bit of a cold, nothing major) which was on top of a tendon injury from working out the week before. This has meant a small timeout from the gym (8-9 days). I've played it down to avoid any invitation to be 'mothered' and have tried to keep up with 'owning my shit' but haven't been able to as much. It's been frustrating to see a massive loss in momentum and almost a step backward. (I think part of the problem is that I've been home much more too) E.g. no sex since injury and illness (been runny nose / sore throat free for 6 days now) when she was literally jumping on me last weekend, shit tests seem to have dried up too.
Have any of you hit minor set backs that have then meant your SO has seemingly lost interest? How did you deal with this?
Realistically, can my 'lost ground' be quickly regained? (Or do I need to just STFU and walk the walk?)
Have you ever intentionally provoked shit tests to come your way in order to pass them?
Yes I know I should just STFU, get back to lifting and be patient - I'm just wanting to know how others have responded / their thought processes in similar situations. I'm in an LTR because I want to start to raise - this is my choice and I'm not interested in whether you support this or not - stick to the questions posted.
Thanks in advance