I'll keep this very brief. I'm posting this because for you fuckers that have been lifting, are getting confident, and feeling good - time to cash in the chips and realize your dominance.
There hasn't been much sex between me and the wife for a number of weeks. I've not been too concerned. She's been less-than-ideal as a mother/wife and I've been keeping myself busy with work, study, and spending time looking after my kids. So my attention goes to myself and my kids, and I've spent my free time pursuing my own interests and fun rather than spending time with my wife.
Last night we are on the couch. I'm practising guitar, she's finger-fucking her phone (same as usual)... I'm feeling like I want some, but I realise "thunder you've not been kino-ing, you've not initiated for a while, you're not even giving her any clues that you're up for some". What do I do?
Nothing. She heads up to bed.
I walk into the bedroom, and say "I'm here to take it from you." She's in bed, reading a book. "Take what?" "Take you."
The soft no... she puts up a feeble defense. I move into a dominant position and now she's giggling and says "I'll give you some starfish but I'm not ready yet." But her body says otherwise, and I know that starfish time for her = caveman time for me.
Its a furious session. She is definitely into it. At the end, she's looking more satisfied than I am. I said "I'm heading back to the other room now" which was met with some "ohhh really?" I gave her a quick cuddle, and walked out. This was the "D" in DEVI, and it worked. She had a delightful mixture of puzzled and satisfied grin on her face as I left.
You don't have to preface sex with a heap of kino or buildup. Don't be afraid to just walk in and be dominant.
I had a plan for rejection. I wouldn't have been pissed if I got a hard no. I knew that hard no = a peck on the cheek and a "I'm getting back to practise" exit.
Get fit and fuckable, then reap the rewards.