Y'all know I run a pretty tight ship, but sometimes I get a WTF moment, so here you go on this rainy Friday...
I am the fitness one in our family, by far. While I do not cook much my wife sticks to a pretty decent menu for us. Kids 9 and 8 eat pretty clean and make decent choices, and that is fine. All I want is guard rails at this point in their lives.
She makes breakfast and lunch for all of us 5 days a week, and at least 4 of those nights are home cooked meals. So, let’s say out of a possible 21 meals a week we cook 15 at home or right at 71% of our meals are clean. Weekend lunch and dinner is normally a free for all.
Pretty good so far….
Kids have been churning thru money at school for lunch, so I investigate and find they are buying Ice Cream at $2.00 a day, 5 days a week. OK, no big deal – course correction. Let’s do that one day a week kids, pick a day – I don’t care.
Here is where the problem starts. I bust the wife sneaking milk shakes, ice cream and other junk items to the kids when she goes up there for lunch with them. So, the one day a week thing is moving back up.
OK, no big deal, give the wife a course correction and explain to her the guard rails one more time. This was a few months ago.
Last night, the wife leaves town to attend a funeral so I am I have the kids with me for 4 days. Party time!!!
I am asking them what they want for lunch today, and I ask them what snack they want me to bring up, since Friday is the snack day.
During this discussion with the kids, it is uncovered that mom had already taken them their Ice Cream for the week (fine so far) but she told them to LIE to me about it if I asked. Neither of them can lie to a professional liar (I am in sales after all.)
So now, this is not about Ice Cream in my eyes. That is one thing. I have issues with her telling the kids to lie to me, over something that is really rather trivial.
So now, when she gets home I get to address this issue with her, and it is no longer about the ice cream, it is about poor advice and direction she is giving our kids. One parent telling their kids to lie to another, is not a game this family is going to play.
My suspicion in all this, is that she knew she was leaving town, and she did not want to miss her “Ice Cream” day with the kids. Rather than just simply saying that, she believes resorting to deception is a higher probability of success than getting a waiver for the week.
Why, I have no clue….