So my girlfriend and I are both in college. Last night she told me that a mutual friend of her and her roommates is planning to come over to our college from his to visit. So far so good. Then she asks me, "Are you okay if he stays in our room?". In my book, not good. I said fuck no that's not okay.
I asked her why he was coming, when, for how long, and what he was coming for. She told me he's here to see her roommate, who's a track athlete, run and hangout with them. The guy and the roommate are both from the same state and that's how they know each other. My girlfriend knows him because they worked together over the summer.
So I created an outline with his reasoning for coming and what I considered to be the facts. His reasoning can be summed up as: 1. Wants to hangout with my girlfriend and her roommate 2. Their good friends and that's just what good friends do 3. He has other mutual friends in the area he wants to visit.
Now here are the facts from what I asked her about him: 1. He's visiting during the week before his graduation (he's a senior at another college) 2. He's staying for 5 days 3. He's flying from one side of the country to the other. East to west. (which costs a lot of money and time). My friend s who study on the east cost never come home for spring break or thanksgiving because the trip is too short for the amount of money spent. 4. Plans to stay in the same room as my girlfriend and her roommate.
I told her that I'm uncomfortable with the whole thing and especially the part about him staying in the room with them for 5 days. I told her the facts don't add up and he has ulterior motives because no guy just flies all the way across the country just to "hang out".
I do trust my girlfriend and that's why today I told her that I'd be fine with him staying with them. Then she told me that she loves me and is willing to let him stay with me or another guy. I told her it's going to have to be another guy because I don't know their mutual friend like that. I don't trust his intentions at all and my gut tells me that something is off about this whole thing. I know that my girlfriends friends mean a lot to her and I don't want to drive a wedge in between. She also finds it important that I engage with and get along with her friends. To be fair, I've never had a problem with any of her guy friends before nor failed to get along with them. But with this guy, I want nothing to do with him at all. I don't want to see him, don't want to talk to him, and I certainly don't want to get to know him.
Just thought I'd rant here and get some outside perspective in case I'm just being unreasonable.
tldr; Girlfriend's friend wants to visit and stay in the same room as her and a roommate. I don't like the situation at all, but don't want to get in the way of her friendships.