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Never ever reject sex?

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April 30, 2018

Hey everyone, I'll try to make this a "fairly" short and straightforward question. It seems many guys on MRP come from DeadBedrooms or can at least relate. A common mantra is to never reject your wife's sexual advances, unless (depending on a slightly debatable view of this sub) she's offering starfish or pity sex.

To me, it seems as though this is for sure the right mentality for a guy who's been struggling with lackluster sex life, has swallowed the pill, and is working on improvement. If you've been a chump for years, begging her for half-assed sex, getting it occasionally, it's one thing. But what if you've never gotten shot down by her? What if you can get it anytime you want?

So never ever reject sex with your wife? Or are there exceptions to the rule? My situation is similar to the OP of this old post where my wife has been gaining a sizeable amount of weight and I've been losing physical attraction for her. This old post, and others, can all be searched for advice/comments on the issue and how to deal with it. It's easy to find opinions on how to sit your wife down and discuss the weight and what's to be done about it, or to simply lead by example without many words. What about the sex though? Is there any reason to think that rejection due to her unacceptable weight gain/lifestyle will help reality-check and motivate her? Or, in your opinions, is it important to keep pounding her regular, and let her know you're finding her choices unattractive/unacceptable in other ways?

I have gut feelings on this, but wanted to get a full takeaway from this sub. Thank you in advance.

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Title Never ever reject sex?
Author ThrowIt2ThaGround
Upvotes 6
Comments 20
Date 30 April 2018 10:07 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret25 points26 points  (3 children) | Copy

Go for the BJ. Fatties are hungry.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Take my fucking up vote.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

We had a saying in college, "fat girls always say thank you"

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are a man of great wisdom.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Reject sex if you don't want it. Period.

Rejecting sex for the purpose of changing someone else's behavior is a covert contract.

Covert contracts are doomed to fail. You make yourself miserable and you make others miserable. Lose/lose.

What don't you understand?

Further details in the comments to you from u/Cam_Winston21 and u/BostonBrakeJob

[–]Cam_Winston215 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I can tell you with 100% certainty that rejecting sex (even for months) will not cause her to lose one ounce. I would say “ask me how I know” but I think you can figure it out. Don’t waste mental calories, pound her, get BJs and live your life, unless you can’t get it up due to disgust.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Never ever reject sex

Who the hell on MRP said that? Nobody, that's who.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No, this has been suggested many times but this is the advice to low T guys in a DB, no the OP in this thread.

[–]johneyapocalypse1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Never ever reject sex unless your wife is a fat-ass.

[–]BobbyPeru1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you want to have sex, do it.

Never turn down sex to make a point - that’s a covert contract.

I come from the school of never turn down sex. Period. It sounds like you’re still attracted enough to have sex, in any case.

Now, if you start having issues getting or staying hard because of attraction loss, that’s a different story...for a different post.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

There's two questions here. One, do I reject sex, and two what if my wife is fat?

There's a myriad of posts here about getting your wife to get in shape. But the long of it is, she's a reflection of you. Where are you at with dread? What are your lifts? If you're buff and getting attention from other women and she's still working on her hambeast degree you need to ask yourself what value does she provide? If you need a live in baby sitter but don't want to fuck her, go get a side piece. If you don't want that start your path to dread, she'll either get the hint or get replaced.

Remember you can get all the sex you want, it's up to her if she wants to provide it.

[–]RedPillCoach1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

what if you've never gotten shot down by her? What if you can get it anytime you want? are there exceptions to the rule?

Yes there are exceptions and I think you are right despite the flack you are going to get. Ignore these autistic fracks and do you brah. I mean that seriously, not in the way we usually use that on MRP because as you probably know, "You do you" is pretty much saying "well fuck off then" in Brah talk.

You are right because you are not in a deadbedroom and/or the wife "never" turns you down, so you are certainly in a very different position than most MRP guys.

For them we absolutely recommend never turning down sex and when she tries to Starfish just slap her ass and go full Conan until you get off because anything less makes you look weak. However, in your case, I think it actually makes you look weak to agree to 'pressured' sex from a woman who barely has your attraction. Make her work for it but I certainly would not play the titillate and punish game with it like a woman.

[–]BostonBrakeJob1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The fuck do you think? "If I quit fucking her maybe she'll get the hint and start losing weight" is no different than "If I do all the dishes, laundry, sweeping and dusting around the house today I'll get laid tonight"

There's a million ways to say "you're too fat". Just remember, most women don't respond to the challenge/drill sergent approach.

As far as fucking, do what you want. There's no cut and dry answer to this, at least not once you reach a certain point.

The fact that you're asking (and vaguely mentioning your fagGUT feeeeewings) probably means you need to fuck at any and all opportunities still. Take all the alpha points your faggot ass can get. When you're less faggoty you can start PLAYING with denials and all that fun shit to get the hamster wheel spinning. But for now, just pretend she's one of the bros and fuck her...faggot.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm not even gonna read your text and just respond to the title.

Sex is not the prize- you are the prize. Rejecting crappy sex is your right and a way to set boundaries.

Okay just read your text - what you're asking is does the man have an obligation to a woman to provide duty sex to a wife he finds unattractive? The answer is what Rollo's blog calls the boner test. If it's not no up and away, then it's not time to play.

Does she have a right to sex with you -no. What is interesting is per the Torah (or Old Testament) a woman does have a right to have sex with her husband. The context being that her role as a wife was to procreate and without sex that is not going to happen immaculantly very often.

[–]JDRoedellRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If she’s offering starfish it’s not a “sexual advance.”

If you find her attractive and want to have sex, don’t turn down an actual advance from her... ever.

If she’s overweight you could try starfishing her. Shit, women have been doing it to fat husbands for all of recent history. Maybe she gets the picture, maybe not and then you decide what your next move is.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

do whatever the fuck you want

the faggots here are so thirsty they'd drink toilet water if it was offered to them

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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