M(34) Wife (26) 1 boy (18 months), lifting 1 month 97kg 1.85.

Well i had some downs on the relationship last year, lately things were improving you know the works, sex 4-6 times a week, been lifting, wife been happy etc, about two months ago one of her ex sent her a facebook msg request, she accepted, left her facebook open on the house computer and ended up reading it, a bit flirty comments but nothing more, we ended up having a talk where i was not ok with that, using a joke about inviting my ex and her ex for some drinks to make my point.

Today my phone was discharged on the morning and one of my employees called me on her phone, when i hung up i saw a notification for a facebook hello from the ex. (For me that means she still on contact).

We had breakfast and told her,i want out. My trust has been broken.

Went back later to pick up some stuff and she was in tears (classic), told me she loves etc etc, she swears nothing happened,that she ignored his messages etc, but like i told her, what was the reason to accept her ex chat in the first place? why she didn't block him after we talked about it? nothing good comes from contacting an ex.

Dont know or care if anything happened or if she kept talking to him, for me trust is broken, i might have been to harsh, but i'm not planning on going back, thanks to redpill... old me would have found a way to "fix" things, but now, i know im worth more than that, i must have higher standards

Thing is i'm not even angry just disappointed...... i know AWALT, i don't want my son to grow without a father, but its not worth my self respect, i love my wife, but i'm learning to love myself even more.

I don't want to break down and pardon her, i plan on keeping strong until she gets her things and leaves.

Were not married just been together 4 years, we rent lease on my name.