My wife doesn't take care of shit at home

UEMcGill · 2018-04-12T18:53:45+00:00

Listen here you fuck. This is borderline concern trolling. Clean up and organize your shit better. We have rules here too. You're not your wife, you do have to follow our rules.

johneyapocalypse · 2018-04-12T01:45:38+00:00

I'm sure your wife spends her days pining away over you, fantasizing about how dynamic and exciting you are.

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2018-04-12T01:59:05+00:00

First off for you need frame. You need to be desired by her so that she wants to please you. If you’re a fat lazy slob she isn’t going to give a shit what you say. If you’re fit, active and can find a replacement for her she’s gonna listen.

What I did is tell her flat out what I needed out of her. Her job is to improve my life. Period. I can’t work all day and deal with that stress just to go home and get stressed out with the house being a total disaster. I didn’t yell just talked to her like she was one of my employees. I told her I understood she’s overwhelmed with how bad it’s gotten and I don’t expect overnight change but I can’t live like this. It’s not up for debate. I made it clear that I have rules for my house. I literally bought every single thing we own because she hasn’t worked in 10 years so if I’m paying she’s keeping it organized. I helped her for the first month, we went room by room together, cleaned and organized each one but after that it was on her to keep each one clean. She had a few slip ups but I give her a time limit now “you have till Tuesday to get this laundry room under control” and praise her and rip her clothes off her when I come home to an especially clean house. She knows I won’t fuck her, take her out to eat, take her on a hike, or really do anything if the house gets gross. And if it’s really bad I’ll go out with friends to de-stress after work because I don’t want to be there or around her.

InChargeMan · 2018-04-12T04:36:58+00:00

U,U,D,D,L,R,L,R,A,B

Edit: OP was looking for the cheat code to MRP. I provided it.

ReddJive · 2018-04-12T02:13:19+00:00

I don’t have it in me. I just don’t. Another lazy mother fucker comes in here swinging his dick. I could analysis this guy. Break it down bit by bit. Postmortem his bullshit.

because that is what this is. Bullshit.

She’s this she’s that....yeah yeah yeah.

Why that fuck are you mad at a fish for swimming? You have what you deserve.

Lazy faggot.

Taipanshimshon · 2018-04-12T03:00:27+00:00

so you can't take care of your place but mad at her?

Nothimorher · 2018-04-12T09:02:56+00:00

The redpill is not about changing her it is about changing you. Read NMMNG brilliant book. How can she do what is expected if she does not know what is expected.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-04-12T01:57:34+00:00

Maybe you should fucking stop with the covert contracts, both with the red pill and cleaning the house.

She’s a huge bitch because YOU are a huge bitch. She is merely reflecting your huge bitchness.

At first I understood she didn’t have time to do stuff <— aka you were being a bitch, lacking frame, covert contracts up the ass, and didn’t have the balls to set a basic boundary. Then it got worse, because you allowed it to get worse.

And you’re Rambo’ing right along, aren’t you.

You haven’t “discovered” anything. This whole post is you being a bitch. Wanting the easy answers. Feeling you’re the king of bitches because you stood up to your woman ONE time.

Stop being a bitch. Start dread 1. STFU, lift, and sidebar.

simbarlion · 2018-04-12T02:43:04+00:00

Now I've discovered RP and think maybe this will change her tone.

maybe add in some RP(TM) gungho and RP(TM) aggression. I think your lacking in this department

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-04-12T12:05:26+00:00

She’s mirroring your sorry pathetic faggot life.

[deleted] · 2018-04-12T15:28:56+00:00

why do you expect your wife to clean YOUR house again?

the_grizzlebee · 2018-04-12T15:43:39+00:00

Victim puke. Sidebar.

thatboyjeff · 2018-04-13T09:00:42+00:00

Now I've discovered RP and think maybe this will change her tone

Lol.

I'm not fully bought in yet

Lol.

Tonight she got pissed cause I put the little one in a t shirt for bed and I told her it's cause I couldn't find anything cause nothing is where it belongs or clean

Own your fucking shit. Its your kid (or is it?). For fucks sake. What the fuck is wrong with you? Why are you asking her where shit is? Shit. You should know and if you knew, you'd just take care of your shit.

duhhhh · 2018-04-12T10:39:43+00:00

More inclined, yes. June Cleaver, no. I stepped up to taking care of my family too much after my first child was born and my mother died a few months apart. Housework was part of that. My first step was boundaries and lowering my standards. A battle of wills I refused to back down on. My kids started to see their mom as lazy. As frame in other areas, dress, etc improved things improved further.

For example, a big peave of mine was dishes and laundry after having kids. I found myself working full time, stepping up to doing all the dishes/laundry, continuing the man chores, dropping the older one at preschool, and doing most of the evening childcare while she was a SAHM. I expected that on most days she should be able to find the time to empty the dishwasher and run a load of laundry while I was at work and the kids were in school. It never happened and I just handled it myself.

Then I changed things up. Now if dish washer isn't empty, the plates get a quick rinse and left in the sink...until we were out of dishes and she needs to start hand washing to have glasses/silverware to have enough for meals. I told her I wouldn't be emptying it. I stuck to it. At one point she thought she would be smart and got plastic cups/utensils. They mysteriously dissappeared for a while. Now she will empty the dishwasher.

I stopped washing everything but my clothes, towels, and occasionally a bare minimum of the kids school clothes in with mine for their sake. My family simply ran out of clean clothes often for over a year. I'd shrug rather than personally make sure my family had most of their clothes clean. A couple times my wife brought 10 loads to the laundromat while running the washer and dryer at home because we were that far behind.

Once she truely believed that I wasn't going to pick up all the slack anymore and she'd have to get off her lazy ass and contribute something beyond babysitting, things improved a lot.

She can now do her designated share of the dishes/laundry and work 15 hours a week without complaint. I'll now OCCASIONALLY empty the dishwasher or run a few extra loads of laundry when working from home and get appreciation for that. At the first hint of expectation I stand firm. I needed to break her sense of entitlement that I would do it all for her and still need to provide reminds I still won't today.

Dishes/laundry was my first step in a long journey.

FoxShitNasty83 · 2018-04-12T06:06:30+00:00

Ok so it sounds like you own your shit and you do stuff round the house. But you have some kind of OCD shit going on.

What about lifting? how fat are you?

Do you have any buddy's you hang out with on a regular basis?

Tell us about the shift tests you get and how you pass them?

What books have you read?

MRP makes the man, the woman follows or she dosent. The levels of dread take care of everything else. You are a man!!! Give less fucks about your wife pretend you are a single parent be nice to her but live your life. If she dosent like that you put your kid in a t-shirt for bed tell her to change it herself... Stfu do something else.

Don't orbit her, do your own thing she is invisible now. I look forwards to reading your oys post next week.

RedPillNewb88 · 2018-04-12T14:47:39+00:00

I posted something similar to this 2 days ago. The comments really helped me take a look at myself. And then yesterday, I spent 7 hours reading NMMNG.

Because I am still learning, I can't offer you any other advice other than to read this book.

Title	My wife doesn't take care of shit at home
Author	ricslash
Upvotes	9
Comments	31
Date	12 April 2018 01:34 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	askMRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/204632
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