I've been,married round 19 years and have usually held frame and maintained,my marriage extremely well before reading about the red pill. A few months ago my mother died and I started to lose frame and over share everything with my wife. I started being more present in her world instead of allowing her into mine. So i feel like I'm in quicksand right now and keep being more needy and insecure about my marriage, job, and really my whole life. Recently, shes starting to go out with her friends more and overheard some conversations that paint me in a disrespectful light. She's planning weekends away with her girls and a couple of them were her make put buddies in bars on a couple occasions. (I authorized it because i assumed it was heading towards a threesome) I've lost all of the control that I used to have.
My question is how can i get that control amd respect back that has been lost? Is it even possible?