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Married red pillers who are 10/10 satisfied with your marriage, what makes it great?

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March 19, 2018
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I'm relatively young and the older couples I know all seem to have pretty average marriages and don't seem super satisfied in them.

So I'd love some positive aspirational stuff on great marriages.

If you're 10/10 satisfied with your relationship/marriage, what makes it great? What do you think contributes? Can you give a few general details (e.g. what's your age gap, how high is your SMV relative to theirs, etc)?


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Title Married red pillers who are 10/10 satisfied with your marriage, what makes it great?
Author sandwhich-
Upvotes 7
Comments 30
Date 19 March 2018 08:51 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204701
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/85my7y/married_red_pillers_who_are_1010_satisfied_with/
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[–]alphasixfour7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’ll give this a go as a fairly new guy myself.

I don’t think you will have too many replies at all that will say they are completely satisfied with their marriage or life for that matter.

One of the things I have had to learn and am still learning is the importance of the journey and process rather than the destination.

Breathing a sigh of relief at the destination is a great way to wish your life away and lock yourself into a beta mindset.

An alpha can’t relax. Won’t relax. There is shit to do, things to improve. Abundance mentality and use of MRP as sexual strategy is about improving yourself continually, for the endless process itself becomes the goal rather than aspiring to a mythical 10/10 destination.

The minute I get satisfied, fat dumb and happy is the minute I start failing shit tests and start the slide back to beta weakness.

It’s the journey man.

[–]ImSteveMcQueen0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It’s the journey man.

I better not be a journey. It should be a process.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BakDswwA71o

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PJqYD5ZEX_0

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill21 points22 points  (4 children) | Copy

I'm never satisfied. There's always work to be done. I strive to be the best leader I can be and push our abilities as a couple.

I'm more attractive than her because I'm a 45 year old executive who's jacked and can suit up. She's 38 with 3 kids and while she can still turn some heads my upside is way greater. Shes a good mother and adds value to my life.

There's a difference between complacent and satisfied. I love her don't get me wrong, but even in a great marriage I would never be satisfied. There's always work to be done.

[–]sandwhich-[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

How do you deal with this? Do you have threesomes as a couple or something else? Is it bothersome to not be able to capitalize on your upside with say females in their early 20s (I imagine there's some biological part of you that has that impulse - how do you deal with it?)?

I'm younger now, and wondering how people feel as the SMV balance in their relationship spreads over time.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Could I bang 20 year Olds? Yep. Would I always say no? Fuck no. I don't go out of my way to step out in my wife but if the right opportunity presented itself I'd live with the consequences.

If I wanted a 3 some or the like I could probably convince my wife. But to be honest that's not how she brings value to my life. Plus I've been with enough women that they all pretty much start to act the same after awhile.

My mission is building my future for my kids and retirement, and this is how she supports that. Those other things would be fun, but not worth the possible detrimental effects they'd cause

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My mission is building my future for my kids and retirement, and this is how she supports that. Those other things would be fun, but not worth the possible detrimental effects they'd cause

Lots of wisdom here.

[–]thatboyjeff0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm never satisfied. There's always work to be done. I strive to be the best leader I can be and push our abilities as a couple.

I think this pretty much sums it up. Having a higher SMV also make things way less challenging, IMO.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

First, 10/10 satisfaction is not a goal for me.

She adds value. Without her adding to my life, what is the point?

I add value to her life, otherwise why would she stay?

It really isn't complicated.

[–]ImSteveMcQueen0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Without her adding to my life, what is the point?

Bingo !

[–]Chump_No_More0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She adds value. Without her adding to my life, what is the point? I add value to her life, otherwise why would she stay?

Guys, read this several times and let it sink in.

It really isn't complicated.

Nope. All relationships are transactional by nature, sexual one's are no different.

I can list a dozen examples of how my wife adds value to my life, without breaking a sweat, and a significant part has little to do with TRP. It's just her being a responsible grown-ass adult who handles her shit. She makes my life easier, not harder.

Never underestimate the value of properly vetting a woman on the front end.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

She adds value. Without her adding to my life, what is the point?

What value does she add that you couldn't add on your own, or that is so valuable that you needed to get a contract (marriage) to get it?

I add value to her life, otherwise why would she stay?

Because she hasn't found greater value yet? What happens when she finds a better deal than you're offering?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I do not "need" a contract. It was already in place pre-RP. There are many things she offers of value, guess you just have to take my word for it, since I have no desire to type out a list.

If she finds greater value, a better deal, then she can GTF out. I will pack her bag, and help her move. It's not complicated INC, and I have much better things to do than even think about it. IDGAF. I am not attached to the outcome.

[–]thunderbeyond6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

I can see you're clearly looking for data for some sort of research you are doing. Don't expect much love here.

But clearly:

  • BJs on demand
  • Unexpected BJs
  • BJs from her hot friends

[–]TaipanshimshonRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

... last point...

that she arranges for

[–]RedPillCoach3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

There is no perfect "10."

Every marriage has ups and downs, good times and bad times. Every woman is hypergamous. Every woman Shit Tests. **Every woman is solipsistic to a lesser or greater degree.

Remember the vows? Those are a guard against female (and male) hypergamy. You say 'for richer or for poorer' not 'until I feel that I "love" you but I am not in love with you.

My wife rarely turns me down and makes a lot of money but that just means I have little to no control over "her" money while "my" money is for the family. It just means that even though she is a strong Christian woman that she will not 'submit' because she is a strongindependentwoman. It just means she uses her negotiating skills to challenge, cajole, and nag her husband. AWALT!

Believe me when I tell you this brothers, it is always the same story just different tax brackets. The Wild Card is you!! Just about the only variable in the equation is you and while that is a lot of responsibility, it also means we now know how to fix the marriage- by fixing yourself with the added benefit that if it doesn't "fix" the marriage you are in a great position to do better next time.

In many ways, the only thing separating the "good" marriages from the divorces is the "C" word (and I don't mean C-nt). When you get married you vow to be with this person until death and to satisfy the needs of the other person even if it means sacrificing what you might want in the moment. It means "Commitment" and there is far to little of it these days, especially from women and especially from reformed sluts and CC riders.

The problem with most of these guys is they sacrifice to much and the wife takes advantage of them and bullies them into a sexless marriage, which often causes a death spiral of despair, and hopelessness which is, of course, extremely unattractive.

[–]CaptJohnLukeDiscard3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

First, my wife had a very low n count. Christian background, conservative, submissive, etc. Second, she adds a high amount of value to my life (cooks, cleans, makes decent money on side, excellent mother, responds to me when I Captain). Third, she is smoking hot. These are all important to me.

That said, I’m not satisfied. Being satisfied is a great way to slip into being beta like I did for 8ish years. I recognize that I’m not where I want to be but my trajectory is up. What’s good is that when a man owns his shit, his family trajectory is usually up too.

Edit: Saw second part of the question. We are both mid 30s. SMVs similar now though mine was substantially higher when we met. She has become a fitness junkie since then. I’m higher BF% now than I want to be (18.5) but still muscular. I would guess her SMV for women her age is 8 or 9 and mine is 7 or 8 for men my age.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

You know what makes it great? MRP. MRP is just the greatest, and I have to tell you about those other subs. They try, but they're nothing like MRP. MRP has the best people, mark my words. Your rating scale of ten doesn't come close to how great MRP is. And the relationships! They are also great. As great and yuge as can be.

For all the haters out there, my IQ is one of the highest — and you all know it! Please don’t feel so stupid or insecure; it’s not your fault.

[–]Olderpiller0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No such thing as a 10/10 in any real relationship. My relationship is a hell of a lot better than it used to be and probably better than most but it is not a 10. I still have to improve and strive and so does she. But the large majority of the time she makes my life better and we have minimal internal drama. MRP was key to getting here

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Me. I am the prize.

Mother fucker

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge-4 points-3 points  (7 children) | Copy

Anal.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Guys will give that to you to. With far less drama. ;)

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

But will they buy me dinner first?

Really disappointing that people are actually responding to this gay post. Go on the VIEW to talk about relationships homos.

Read the fucking ==>

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Some guys will. I only responded just cause.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Troll. Either a faggot or fishing. Fishing faggot.

[–]drty_prRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Neither a troll nor fishermen. Merely a leach.

[–]thunderbeyond2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Check out OPs post history. He's a scientist!

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Faggot scientist

[–]ex_addict_broRed Beret-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Being able to say "fuck off" to people trying to do some research on us.



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