I am new to MRP, but I can't get enough of it. I used to (not too long ago) be a beta poster child, but am really pulling my shit together. It has been life changing and I am only getting started. Just in the last couple weeks I have read NMMNG and MMSLP. I DEFINITELY need to re-read them, as there is a lot of information I didn't soak up.
Anyway, I am faced with a situation tonight that I need some advice on. I know I will find it through more studying, but I don't want to fuck this up. Hopefully you guys can lend me some insight in the mean time.
Every time we have sex, my wife is the one with frame. I want it often and am adventurous, and she wants it every 3-4 months and is pretty conservative. So our whole marriage it has been me initiating every day or so and getting turned down and her initiating every 3-4 months and me giving her the vanilla sex she wants. Tonight she has asked for sex, and the only thing that comes to mind that will allow me to maintain frame is to deny her (which I know is breaking a cardinal rule), so without flat-out denying her, how can I maintain frame when she is initiating sex on her terms (which are unacceptable to me [i.e., every 3-4 months and totally vanilla])?
It is possible this won't happen again for 3-4 months, so I don't want to fuck this up.
EDIT: Thank you so much guys...I really appreciate it. Great, great advice. I'm going to enjoy it, and I am going to do it for me.