Found the wife texting an ex after I checked the phone bill. She was being a bit odd about me touching her phone(abnormal) to take a picture. I saw about a dozen texts back and forth between them(most him).
After talking with a friend of mine, and once I cooled off, I mentioned to my wife that it was a bit strange of her to act like that towards her phone. I gave her the chance to tell me. She didnt. Then I addressed it.
I said "there are two things I draw a hard boundary on, lying and talking to other men."
She went on to say that he messaged her about her parents house being on the market. And he had a couple of questions(right..). I told her I wanted to see the messages, but she said she deleted but she didnt want to make me angry. In the past, I would have gotten jealous and angry but I maintained frame(as best as I could) and didnt yell. She also said that in the past, I "didnt care who she texted."(maybe I did but that was then, this is now.)
Lastly, I told her "if you want to act single, you can be single." she blew that off and tried to pretend not to care by saying "okay!". Now, Im here. Any further communication with this guy and its game over. I believe she understands that now.
Whats my next move? As expected, she been Ice Queen for the past 24 hours.
Do your worst, Men.
Background: 27, her 26. Married 1.5 years. RP aware 10 months. Reading, lifts(bench 215, DL 345, Squat 305, BF 15%). For more info check my posts.