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What do you think? Shit test or not?

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February 5, 2018
6 upvotes

Alright. I'm still new here and I'd like your brutally honest opinion.

I come home from work. I shovel the driveway.

I come inside, take my shit off, put on some slippers and sit down on the couch to relax for a bit before my wife goes to school and I make dinner for us.

As she's putting on her coat to leave for school, she asks me to go out and start the car for her.

I chuckle and say no. I get up to go to the bathroom. She storms out without saying goodbye.

I'm sitting here laughing... still.

But I can't help but wonder if if I handled this wrong...

What do you guys think? Shit test or no?


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Title What do you think? Shit test or not?
Author RedPillNewb88
Upvotes 6
Comments 48
Date 05 February 2018 11:19 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204854
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/7viyq0/what_do_you_think_shit_test_or_not/
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[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You did fine. Don't think about it.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Interesting. There isn't enough in your post history to make the call if this was the right response. Yet for the group, as a learning point I will try to channel my inner Jack.

Most guys come in here with the TRP attitude that women as bitches and need to be put in their place. She's a cunt who doesn't fuck right? If that's the only attitude there door is over there. Admit right now you entered into a marriage. Shitty deal? Sure, but it's the choice you made. If you can just take a moment and consider this.

Without a doubt I don't necessarily agree with the idea that "women are completely empty and void of anything waiting for the right man to take complete control." On the surface it seems that not compelling with this servant request was the correct attitude. I for one would be interested in the second and third after effects of our hero's decision here. I fully expect her to be a bitch and to talk about what a ass her husband is. AWALT right? Ammi right?

One has to consider the task at hand. Sure our hero had just sat down. I've have asked our would be Alphas...did you earn it yet? We already know women are watching everything we do. gain a little weight and they take note, though they won't say anything. The advice there would be....don't be a fatty and get back in the gym. here? yeah...fuck women. Hero sat down put on his slippers and kicked back.

Chore play doesn't work, but real changes in how you go about your day, your behaviors, and how you run your life do. If you haven't done any of these her request, you sitting on the couch, despite the list of things you've done and have yet to do...simply creates yet another shit test. that chore play argument works both ways. She, us, nor anyone else really gives shit what you have done. It's what you do that matters.

It's a hard thing to understand and to get right. This isn't to say men should do things for their women if they don't deserve it. Yet men need to understand that she wants you to actively seek problems and obstacles, then remove them if you can. Why else do you think saying "just tell me what you want me to do" is pointless. They don't want the thing fixed they don't want the broken thing to have existed in the first place. Men need to be proactive. Think down the road.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Totally a shit test which you passed. Her getting angry is two things: 1) a last ditch attempt to manipulate you into staying her errand boy and 2) an emotional outburst for losing said errand boy.

Your response seemed fine to me.,.but it’s possible you chuckling at her request made her feel stupid for asking. You found it a humorous request, but you didn’t bring her into your frame by making it humorous to her, too.

Instead of saying “haha, no” you could have done a little more here by making the rejection a little funnier is all. Got any characters or voices you use to annoy her? I would’ve taken the opportunity to fuck with her more by rejecting the request like Judge Judy or some shit. Don’t take her requests so seriously and it’ll probably go smoother. Just my take.

[–]JudgeDoom692 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This falls under the classic definition of the shit test know as a Compliance Test.

“Go and get me a cup of tea” or “Hold my handbag" or "Go and start up my car"

She is really asking whether or not you are a complicit beta that will take her orders like a good little boy.

A good response is an amused "What, do you have a broken fucking leg?!?"

[–]ex_addict_broRed Beret5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

From the extra information you provided in the comments, I think you handled this perfectly, 10/10.

The problem is you think about it.

Who cares if it was a shit test.

Oh, you do. Why?

Do you want to validate yourself? "Yes, it was a shit test, my wife wants me, omg I rock"?

So, what us guys think is, handled perfectly, doesn't matter at all if it was a shit test or not, what matters is why you still think about it.

[–]RedPillNewb88[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

That's something to digest right there.

[–]ex_addict_broRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's woman stuff. Just fucking ignore it.

Handled perfectly as in: was an asshole, caused some emotion.

I'd wash my dick tonight if I were you. Don't make the BJ harder for her.

[–]BostonBrakeJob1 point2 points  (11 children) | Copy

I'm sitting here asking a bunch of internet strangers if I made a boo-boo.....and thinking about it... still.

Fixed.

[–]RedPillNewb88[S] 2 points3 points  (9 children) | Copy

However, how am I supposed to learn if I don't ask questions? Isn't that what askmrp is for?

[–]BostonBrakeJob0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

Why didn't you start the car for her?

edit: Nm, just read your other comments. It's clear you're gonna DEER this one too.

When I Say No I Feel Guilty. Read it until you no longer feel the urge to explain yourself to anyone else ever again.

[–]RedPillNewb88[S] 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

Didn't want to as it was already warm and ready to go. I had been driving it already. Just got home 20 minutes before she had to leave.

[–]BostonBrakeJob1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

Didn't want to.

Fixed.

You're fine dude. Stop stressing it and get back to having a good time. With any luck you can slip a finger in her ass tonight.

[–]RedPillNewb88[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Right on. My DEERing is terrible...

[–]BostonBrakeJob1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

See, you learned more than just "Should I or should I not have started the car for her?"

[–]RedPillNewb88[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I did, now I just gotta catch myself in the act.

[–]RedPillNewb88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Point taken.

[–]DeeMooreDeeMarriet1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I get home and shovel the driveway. She makes dinner. I come in and eat it. If she wants to go out she starts the car. From inside the house. I bought her a car with remote start.

[–]FoxShitNasty830 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

Sounds like a shit test to me, not sure you have time to relax for a bit especially in the early days. Well done

[–]RedPillNewb88[S] 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

I mean, its not like our marriage is on the rocks. I work out, 9 percent body fat, 175 @5'6 so I'm a little stocky guy. I've always worn the pants here so to speak. I handle the bills, decide what's for dinner, (and have been cooking it to since she has night school). But shit tests are very new to me.

Normally, I would have jumped up to do this expecting that it would help me get laid when she gets home but I have learned that would be considered a covert contract, and petty at best anyway.

And in this particular situation she knew I was outside shoveling and could have asked me then. She waited until I finally sat down and put my slippers on to ask me to go out and start the car lmao, while she was putting on her coat. I'm sitting there thinking, "really??"

[–]BobbyPeru1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lift numbers please

[–]PersaeusRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

9 percent body fat, 175 @5'6

so your squatting at least 350 pounds, benching 250, and deadlifting over 400? amirite?

[–]BobbyPeru1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly.

[–]mrpthrowa-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

9 percent body fat

come one dude.

[–]SeamusAwl0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

He came here seeking validation. And second he didnt give us much information to go on. So he shoveled the driveway, did he de-ice her car? Do they share a car?

[–]RedPillNewb88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

We have two cars, but she takes the one I use for work, to school. So it was sitting in the driveway for maybe 20 minutes... after I had driven it for 30 minutes coming home.

[–]Alpha_Engineer990 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Mmslp talks about these kinds of shit tests. Cute girl shit test perhaps?

Anyway, good job on not jumping up every time she says so or catering to her every whim.

Where are you in your map?

I do make it a point to start her car on cold mornings and scrap off the ice for visibility purposes... she drives the kids to school. My job as the man of the house to make sure they get there safely.

[–]RedPillNewb88[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Well, I had a bit of a head start on lifting as I have been working out since highschool.

I threw out all of my graphic tees, you know, the ones with Pink Floyd or Captain America on them, and started wearing nicer clothes all the time. Read bang, day bang, mmslp, wisnifg, and nmmng.

So, I'm really at the point where I'm learning shit tests and practicing game.

But we're not talking about starting the car on a cold morning. We're talking about starting a car that had already been running for 30 minutes and only sitting for 20 while I shoveled the snow.

[–]SeamusAwl-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Then you missed a perfect opportunity to game your wife. Instead you choose the easy fake alpha route of being a dick. In my opinion, the dick move should be the last tool you use.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yes it is a shit test/compliance test. You handled it just fine. Now forget it, it is gone. Don't bring it up, don't engage if she brings it up. You can't lose if you don't play the game.

[–]RedPillNewb88[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Roger that. She's already texting me that she got to school safely, the other girls are bitches, etc... I have no intention of asking her why she stormed out or bringing it up at all.

[–]DanceMonkeeDanceRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Perfect. Don't bring it up. Anything she says is amusing.

[–]TaipanshimshonRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

" Oh you want me to start your engine huh .... come here and I'll start it for you"

or some such.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

We live in Texas. I am normally the first one to leave in the am. If it is "cold" out (eg less than 30F) then I will start my wives truck for her.

She drives the kids to school, and it sucks sitting in a cold car for 15 mins, just go get home and it finally warm up.

If I don't get to it, one of the kids will because they don't like to sit in a cold car on the way to school.

Was your scenario a shit test? Yes it was.

Is turning the car on for your spouse a sign of weakness? Not under the correct circumstances.

[–]RedPillNewb88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I hear ya for sure.

[–]SeamusAwl-2 points-1 points  (8 children) | Copy

Not a shit test rambo.

[–]RedPillNewb88[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

I can agree, definitely a bit Rambo. Although, it's not like I went on off on her.

But what would you have done?

I was thinking I could have framed it as "Big strong man, goes to ready car for little helpless girl" or something.

[–]Red-Curious6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Girls play with narrative crafting. Don't be a girl. Your response was fine.

Personally, I prefer positive emotional responses over neutral ones. A month ago my wife asked the same of me: "Can you go warm up the car?"

Answer: Sure thing, babe. She goes off to do something else. She goes outside and comes back in after finding the car still off.

Her: "I thought you were going to warm up the car for me!"

Me: I did. In fact, I did you one better. I pull out two hot wheels I was sitting on and tossed them to her. I warmed up two cars for you!

Her emotional reaction went from ticked to playful angry. No lingering issues when she got home.

[–]RedPillNewb88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ahh ha, funny!

[–]SeamusAwl0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Considering she was taking your car, i would have grabbed her and said “its warm” and then kissed her with my hands on her ass. Then pull away slightly and look her in the eyes and say “its getting a whole lot warmer” right after the kiss. Then walked away.

[–]Yasuo_Spelling_Bot-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

It looks like you wrote a lowercase I instead of an uppercase I. This has happened 3205 times on Reddit since the launch of this bot.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yes it is...

[–]SeamusAwl-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

OP didnt orovide enough info to determine that.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd like to agree with you, but then we'd both be wrong.



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