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Is there a sub dedicated to divorced RP?

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February 4, 2018
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Tried my best to save marriage via MRP but the damage and AWALT was too much.

RP advice geared towards late 30s + would be helpful.


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Title Is there a sub dedicated to divorced RP?
Author elvezisdead
Upvotes 8
Comments 29
Date 04 February 2018 06:36 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204858
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/7v8jky/is_there_a_sub_dedicated_to_divorced_rp/
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[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret17 points18 points  (3 children) | Copy

You missed the main point of MRP.

MRP IS DRP.

MRP fixes the man.

Not the wife.

Not the sex.

Not the marriage.

When you are fixed by MRP, sometimes you find out the wife and marriage are irretrievably broken.

Move on.

If you DON’T/HAVEN’T fixed you, whatever you just went through, you will go through again.

Yeah, it can be fucked up.

The universe has kicked me in the nuts every year for the last 5 years, from burying both my parents, burying one of my 17yo sons, to finding out my wife is cheating on me.

Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% what you do about it.

So stop your sniveling, man the fuck up, grow a pair with hair, and accept it as a gift.

I’m 56.

Starting over with a 18yo car, 308,000mi, and currently $317 in liquid assets.

One day at a time.

One year to heal, get jacked, and start chasing pussy the same age as my waist size. Shooting for 32-34.

Start over.

Reinvent yourself.

Be the awesome motherfucker you’ve always wanted to be.

Or don’t.

Whether you think you can, or think you can’t; you’re right. ~Henry Ford

[–]RedPillPowerNine2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm sorry you lost a son man, that's horrible.

[–]elvezisdead1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank You. Really makes more impact for me when it comes from someone who has actually lived it. Appreciate you taking time to reply.

[–]Kidterrific1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Rooting for you. But you don't need it - you got this.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

MRP and RP are the answers you seek to get.....

I don't remember you from MRP. Regardless, MRP and TRP sidebar lessons are even more important now. Get your mental and physical frame in order and avoid just doing it all over again.

[–]BobbyPeru5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. The quality on MRP is unparalleled, generally, and the lessons generally apply no matter what your status is

[–]captainVSI2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

What exactly are you looking for? What could a “DRP” offer that MRP doesn’t already? It’s not like the advice would be any different

[–]elvezisdead2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Looking for a different perspective really from those that are starting this next chapter: pitfalls, advice, splitting up the family, dealing with oneitis. Knowledge from those that have made it past that initial mountain.

Getting divorced has literally changed my entire, "world" of the past 10+ years. I feel like Ricky Bobby, "I'm not sure what to do with my hands." Feels like YES, I'm finally out of a shitty marriage but at the same time it's scary. I'm struggling with the damage done to our children and the inevitable that she has / will move on. Meaning at some point another guy is going to be around my kids. - that shit is killing me.

Killing the ego, practicing stoicism, DGAFA; I can't seem to turn these feelings OFF. Regardless of what has happened between us. I still love my Ex. I have this neverending replay of trauma - Can't sleep at night because of it and it's the first thing in my brain as I wake up. I carry it all day long. Makes it worse for me because I know she doesn't give a shit about me.

Lifting, therapy, going out, fling with a younger more attractive girl, banged a few bitches. Nothing seems to kill this pain.

[–]reborn_redUnplugging - pregnant LTR0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dont leave your kids out of the loop. Let them know that they can still rely on you, despite the shit situation.

My dad waited years before telling me how it affected him. Why shit went south, etc.

Protect them, but be honest about what's happened. It would've been easier to understand, even if more painful.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Start posting in OYS. You will need to fill in your story quite a bit. Suspect you did not get very far in your MAP before she divorced you based on this oneitis

[–]BirdManBrrrr0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just filed last month and I'm feeling a lot of the same things as you, albeit at a lesser level since we haven't been married long nor have kids. The conclusion I come to is I need to 1. work to control my environment (OYS) and 2. do something different...break the patterns that led me to being in a shitty marriage and to avoid repeating poor behaviors.

A shitty answer but the probable right one is simply radical acceptance of the situation for what it is. The corollary to that is to "know your worth"; someone gave me advice here that once I realized and started acting like I Am The Prize a lot of things come into focus and my mindset can change accordingly. Some cynicism as part of this unplugging process also helps in killing the Disney dream of marriage and your ex wife being "the one", although that can get toxic also.

Start by making yourself who you want to be, and recognize your value to the world. Start to control your environment and don't be passive with life; the tactical things you can do with your kids, etc are partially under your control...start with action and see where it goes from there.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

TRP advice is 90% useful for anyone over 30. Establishing and maintaining frame, getting in shape, learning game, focus on your mission, the commandments of poon. You don’t need anything more than that. Go forth and slay pussy

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

Same place. We have a small, but growing list of guys who either started too late, or finally killed the puppy with low value with them.

If anything, it's a space we need more people to expand on.

[–]elvezisdead0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Thank you! Exactly what I'm talking about. If only I had known about MRP sooner, damage is done: need a sub dedicated to DRP

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not enough guys to split any further.

[–]ex_addict_broRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sub for happily divorced red-pill aware guys?

... r/ex_addict_bro maybe

[–]JudgeDoom691 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm in the same boat. Things were too far gone when I found out about RP.

The advice given here is still very applicable. You should start posting an Own Your Shit post every Tuesday. The real gold is in the comments to OYS.

[–]drjamesstone2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

[–]TaipanshimshonRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Plenty of mrp guys are in the divorce mix. Several attorneys as well

[–]elvezisdead2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I know this, I find myself reading certain posts and feeling: this was written by some new millennial college kid. This shit doesn't apply to me. I had abundance in HS and College - environment is practically geared towards hooking up. More so now then ever. Fish in a barrel.

[–]TaipanshimshonRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go to ask mrp

[–]ex_addict_broRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck early 20s.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Great idea. But for now maybe those of us who have done the deed should weigh in with our experiences.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Every man goes into his own crucible. How he comes out is a function of his willingness to break down the ego and soak up wisdom. If you are in pain after cutting out the dead weight from your life, you didn’t spend enough time in the fire, finding YOU.
46, divorce in process after 20yrs together, living apart for almost 18mos, early 30’s GF - having the time of my life really.



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