Background: Wife is pregnant. Married 8 years. 2.5 year old child. Both early 30s. Read NMMNG and The Way of the Superior Male. Currently reading BPP's ebook. I'm 5'9 190#, getting stronger. Lift/sprint work 5x per week.
My question is this. With my wife's pregnancy, I am encountering very extreme shit tests.
"I hate you" "We should divorce" And worst to me..."I don't think you should be at our sons birth."
I STFU, sometimes AA but that turns from shit test to shit storm.
I understand she's pregnant so I'm trying to play the nice card but I feel it's also a cop out. She doesn't treat anyone else like this.
My question is this: does being oak mean we are always stoic and do not set boundaries at some point? If I STFU I don't feel like I'm setting acceptable boundaries for the future.
Edit: Her saying she hated me was in response to my AA after her ST. During one ST I just lightly smiled and STFU and she said she hated me.
Second edit: We started having problems around first of last year. We went to counseling with a lady I actually still think was good for my wife. She challenged my wife's perspective. We got to a good place, and wife asked me if we could try for a baby. Three months of great baby making sex later, she's pregnant.