So I'm deployed right now and I read a bunch of old texts and messages from the wife when we first started dating. Damn we flirted and sext and all that. I felt at the time on a higher standing than her friends. So I was like I need to rekindle this.

Today the wife texted me and initiated the convo. I'm 8 hours ahead so she's at work. She mentioned something small about one of her new students to connect with me and reach out. We chit chatted and I wanted to sex it up. Took some pics and chatted her up.

She had said she was going to get some boudoir photos taking for me for an anniversary present. That was like two months ago. I brought it up and she said she forgot. I joked with her " It's been so long since a sexy pic I've almost forgot ;-)" which she replied with..."Right"...I was like fuck me for trying. She went into a spiel about how she's at work, and there is a time and place, and I replied that we will find that place.

She went on to say a bunch of friend zone bullshit which I wanted to respond back with that I feel that intimacy is a connection we have that separates as a couple instead of feeling like another friend. That would be DEERing so I held off. I changed topic but still frustrated about trying to initiate only to be FZ.

TLDR: I'm deployed; wife and I don't sext anymore; tried to initiate; shot down; pissed off; How to jump start?