Is my wife crazy or am I going rambo

SgtSilverBack · 2018-01-19T00:31:26+00:00

Damn, did she tell you that your birthday presents should be what she wants?

It's your birthday, she doesn't get to decide what you do, only her role in it.

Take your kids to see their grand parents. Let them cook for you.

She will sees you as they bitch that she can shame into doing what she wants.

Don't get all pissed because internet people said you should stand up to your scary wife. Just tell her it sucks she won't be there for YOUR birthday dinner.

For your own hamster, does she ensure the kids are consistently put to sleep at what ever arbitrary time she just used in her argument?

Does she make a bigger deal about her own birthday?

Does she drive 20 minutes for dumb shit because she wants to?

My point is that she doesn't do shit for you but demands, shames and manipulates you into doing all that for her. See it as such and stop letting her do it.

Fuck, might as well tell your parents your wfe wouldn't let you come out and play.

wildnight98 · 2018-01-19T02:43:54+00:00

Take the kids and go to the dinner. Kiss your wife on the way out (she’ll be cold but whatever). Tell her you’ll bring her back a slice of cake and go. Then when you get back kiss her and act totally normal no matter how witchy she is. Let her steam for a week if she wants. What’s she going to do, divorce you? These are good baby steps.

I bet she gives in at the last minute and goes with you.

BobbyPeru · 2018-01-19T00:49:59+00:00

The mistake you made was telling her she can keep the kids and stay home. If you weren’t scared of her, you wouldn’t have given that option. It showed your weakness and increased her contempt.

If she wants to stay home, she stays by herself.

Otherwise, you didn’t do too bad. Just stay on course....

man_in_the_world · 2018-01-19T01:05:18+00:00

(She won't have babysitter... Long story)

No, short story; your wife's in complete charge and doesn't even consider the views of the kids' own father.

You're their father; it's important that you take your kids away regularly. Build up to it by just taking them to the park for an hour if you must start small, but start tomorrow.

She appears properly stressed out. I guess this will blow up again and again. This normal?

I forgot to add, she has always been controlling and treats me like a doormat. Whenever I stand up to her she gets very angry.

Yes, this is a very common strategy controlling people use to manipulate wimps and people with low self-confidence. You have encouraged and reinforced this behavior for many years, and she will continue it as long as it remains effective.

red-sfpplus · 2018-01-19T00:51:44+00:00

You have some brothers giving you good advice, so Ill play devils advocate.

How is the relationship between her and your parents? I am not super fond of my in-laws so I only attend 50-60% of the stuff on their side.

But I never give my wife crap for it, nor prevent her or kids from going. Big things I attend. Little things I will skip from time to time.

If she is like this always, then disregard my question and my answer would be:

Leave her behind. Take the kids and hang out with your folks.

Reach180 · 2018-01-19T00:22:13+00:00

What part would qualify as Rambo?

You're good. When she rages on you about it tomorrow, have your WISNIFG game primed and don't react emotionally

izual19 · 2018-01-19T01:12:01+00:00

I think you handled that perfectly. She sounds like a harpy cunt.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-01-19T19:02:33+00:00

All wives are crazy. Your wife is not special. :)

snatch_haggis · 2018-01-19T00:22:48+00:00

Have you ever, like literally ever, made plans like this before? Because her reaction makes me think you haven't.

Like I said to somebody the other day, you're trying to turn a 180 with a 10 ton ship. We're all captains, sure, but you're not piloting a hydrofoil, man.

My take, basically don't implement anything until you get your lifts way way way up from where they and you've had another month or two to internalize this stuff.

The reality is if you tell yourself "I will take no actions of any kind right now" you still will, but man, when people first start and they convince themselves they're being subtle, they're almost always just hitting everything around them with a giant MRP-shaped sledgehammer.

Work on you. Give it time. Mind you, go ahead and take the kids, and don't feel bad if she doesn't go. But IMO, slow down, you've been at this 19 days.

screechhater · 2018-01-19T02:02:54+00:00

Why she got to raise you and them kids ??

Can’t you be a fucking man. ?

Money tight after Xmas. Lame mother fucking excuse. It comes around once a tear like birthdays. Plan stay in budget.

Just make more excuses like that, and it’s the reset button all over again.

Read. Lift. STFU. Most of all, look up self respect

creating_my_life · 2018-01-19T00:22:59+00:00

Been reading the books and lifting and feeling good.

You didn't put in your height, weight, bodyfat level, and dead/squat/bench numbers. What level of Dread are you on?

Do you know what the 1000' rope is?

Whenever I stand up to her she gets very angry

She's allowed to get angry. You're allowed to not care.

"Stand up to her" is already the wrong mindset. You're already putting her in a position of power and validating that; and THEN putting yourself in the responsive role.

Alpha_Engineer99 · 2018-01-19T01:27:04+00:00

When did you actually tell her that you made plans to go to your parents ?

Hopefully not the day before or the day of ????

If that’s true than that’s where you fucked up. Great that you made plans without seeking her permission, but you need to give advanced notice dude , so there’s no room for bullshit.

In the big picture, if you are new to this (leading), it will get worse before it gets better. Just keep doing what you are doing. She isn’t used to it and doesn’t want the current dynamic to change.

Little things like this with her getting all butt hurt will slowly reset the relationship. Picture it like a ratchet affect, slowly ratcheting yourself to where you need to be. Each time you pass her shit tests, not DEER as you usually do, you are resetting the dynamic in your favor.

Keep improving, pass the shit tests that will come at you (just AA them) and never DEER from here on out. Pedal on the metal. Start upping your SMV. She doesn’t respect you , that’s why she treats you like a door mat. She wants you to lead. Do it.

Also, since she treats you like a fucking door mat, she can’t be sexually attracted to you. So, pick one, 1) door mat or 2)high value husband who gets pussy and whom she submits to....

PeggedByOwlette · 2018-01-19T07:13:11+00:00

She's not going to roll over easy, they fight to maintain their power in the relationship.

Keep lifting and SHUTTING THE FUCK UP.

Alphaphux · 2018-01-19T09:50:30+00:00

Keep reading and practicing mate - you’re not going Rambo but you are expecting her to change after such a short time. Remember to allow a solid month of work for every year of LTR.

Next birthday will be better I guarantee it - if you stay with the program.

[deleted] · 2018-01-19T15:36:02+00:00

Not even close to Rambo...so no danger there.

She's stressed because you wont lead and she has to with her shitty makeshift toolset (nagging, whining, bitching).

Provide less options next time. If you leave things open to debate at this stage...debate is what you get.

It's early. You're raw and soft. Time to grow a thicker skin and care -waythefuckless- about her moods/emotions and even actions at this point. Keep up the reading.

Rian_Stone · 2018-01-20T02:14:12+00:00

Why did you put up with any of this. Do what you were gonna do. Let her sulk alone.

Question, does she fuck you regular? If not, her aversion to losing her cock blockers is telling

King_tony15 · 2018-01-19T00:09:01+00:00

GO RAMBO!!

Title	Is my wife crazy or am I going rambo
Author	FoxShitNasty83
Upvotes	11
Comments	63
Date	19 January 2018 12:05 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	askMRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/204931
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