Holy crap, I can't believe some of the horror stories I read on here. A year ago I was in a crappy relationship too, but nothing like what some of you have.
What the fuck goes through some of your minds ? I have 2 questions. 1) Why aren't you working on yourself ? 2) Why do you give a fuck what she says ?
Why aren't you working on yourself ? When your car breaks down, what do you do ? You fix it ! Do you drive around on a flat tire ? No. Do you try to get groceries with it if the bumper is falling off ? No.
So why are some of you so friggin hesitant to read and lift ? Like WTF ? Your life is shit, your wife has no respect for you and yet you waffle around spend your time arguing with your wife. Let me give you a tip: Absolutely nothing that comes out of your mouth is going to fix you or your relationship. That is why we say "Acta, non verba". The only thing that will change your life is YOU working on YOU. Period. End of story.
When your life is screwed up, you should be spending every spare minute and even some essential minutes working on YOU. Read NMMNG 3 times. Read WISNIFG. Read it again. And again. Hit the gym regularly. Can you press your body weight ? Can you run 5K ? Are your abs showing ? Can you plank while fucking or are you smothering her with your belly ?
Until you got this stuff down cold, there isn't any use coming on here to ask questions. Because nothing people tell you will make a difference. She doesn't care what you say. She is watching what you do and who you are.
Why do you care what she says ? If your partner disrespects, ignores you, you cheats on you, calls you names and doesn't follow your lead, why do you care ? She is showing you her nature and what she thinks of you. Nothing that you say will change her. You can't change her. She is what she is.
So the next time she acts badly, do you care ? No. You observe. You learn from it. You use it as motivation. You don't get butt hurt. You don't retaliate. You don't DEER. You don't negotiate. You work on you in the manner that is best for you. Period. End of story. Act like you are single. DGAF if she is butt hurt by that.
A year ago I was where some of you are. Not all relationships are savable, but your life is. You don't have to live a crappy life. You don't have to be in a crappy relationship with a shitty low value woman. AWALT, but not all women are going to respond positively to your growth and development. MRP saves the man. The relationship might or might not be salvageable. Put that front and center in your mind and do work on what you can: YOURSELF.
Holy crap my life is good now.
I lived in a bad relationship for 10 years. I used to tip toe around my ex, trying to make her happy. Letting her yell at me and control me. "Happy wife, happy life", right ? NOT ! Fuck that. Get to work. Start living up to your potential. Everything else will fall into place in due time.