Background: Together for 10 years, married for 8, two kids.
Me: Muscular But low-fat body. 6’0 185lbs. I continue to work on it, but I’m in better shape than 99.9 percent of men. I continue to work out, get stronger, etc. But my body is not my problem.
Sex: Sex began going down year two of the marriage. My wife absolutely refuses to receive oral or do anything besides missionary and other man on top positions. Considers doggie degrading. Blow Jobs once in a blue moon.
I always make sure to initiate during the day when I have something I can do (mostly workout, go for a run, etc). I never initiate at night so we aren’t just sitting in bed with nowhere to go.
My wife has said in the past “if you need more sex, we should find you somebody.” I know she has always been facetious about it. Two days ago I finally said to her “I want to take you up on that offer. I’m going to start looking for a side girl since you’re okay with it.” She said that she wasn’t okay with it and that I “knew she was kidding.” Sure enough later that night she initiated (rare).
But there was no sex yesterday or today. I initiated when both kids were napping yesterday. She said she didn’t feel well. I went and lifted.
Today she was tired from work. I finished cleaning up the kitchen, went for a run, and showered.
Housework: I’m a man. It’s my house. I fix things because I want to fix them and I take pride in my work. I’m human though. Sometimes I miss something. When I do, my wife makes sure to point it out immediately. If her shoes are all over the front room and I say something, her response is usually “well you’re only saying that because I corrected you about your jacket on the chair last week.” So it’s always a back and forth.
She complains just to complain. She hates her job and is going to quit and stay home with the kids (2 and 1). I’m fine with that because we don’t have to pay for daycare. Sadly I think she thinks it’s a reward for her constant complaining. The day the younger one turns preschool age she’s back to work.