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Low sex, hypocritical, and complains no matter how good things are. Can it change after all this time?

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December 19, 2017
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Background: Together for 10 years, married for 8, two kids.

Me: Muscular But low-fat body. 6’0 185lbs. I continue to work on it, but I’m in better shape than 99.9 percent of men. I continue to work out, get stronger, etc. But my body is not my problem.

Sex: Sex began going down year two of the marriage. My wife absolutely refuses to receive oral or do anything besides missionary and other man on top positions. Considers doggie degrading. Blow Jobs once in a blue moon.

I always make sure to initiate during the day when I have something I can do (mostly workout, go for a run, etc). I never initiate at night so we aren’t just sitting in bed with nowhere to go.

My wife has said in the past “if you need more sex, we should find you somebody.” I know she has always been facetious about it. Two days ago I finally said to her “I want to take you up on that offer. I’m going to start looking for a side girl since you’re okay with it.” She said that she wasn’t okay with it and that I “knew she was kidding.” Sure enough later that night she initiated (rare).

But there was no sex yesterday or today. I initiated when both kids were napping yesterday. She said she didn’t feel well. I went and lifted.

Today she was tired from work. I finished cleaning up the kitchen, went for a run, and showered.

Housework: I’m a man. It’s my house. I fix things because I want to fix them and I take pride in my work. I’m human though. Sometimes I miss something. When I do, my wife makes sure to point it out immediately. If her shoes are all over the front room and I say something, her response is usually “well you’re only saying that because I corrected you about your jacket on the chair last week.” So it’s always a back and forth.

She complains just to complain. She hates her job and is going to quit and stay home with the kids (2 and 1). I’m fine with that because we don’t have to pay for daycare. Sadly I think she thinks it’s a reward for her constant complaining. The day the younger one turns preschool age she’s back to work.


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Title Low sex, hypocritical, and complains no matter how good things are. Can it change after all this time?
Author chairitystripe
Upvotes 8
Comments 71
Date 19 December 2017 05:26 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/205049
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/7kr7ae/low_sex_hypocritical_and_complains_no_matter_how/
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[–][deleted] 29 points30 points  (5 children) | Copy

She doesn't respect you because you don't require nor deserve respect.

My wife absolutely refuses to receive oral or do anything besides missionary and other man on top positions. Considers doggie degrading. Blow Jobs once in a blue moon. You allow this, so she doesn't have to put out. Her frame.

Sure enough later that night she initiated (rare). But there was no sex yesterday or today. Does my pussy still have the power? Yep, he's still here and he shut up about other women. Job done. her frame.

Today she was tired from work. Poor girl, so you allowed her to do nothing. Aren't you occasionally tired from work? Her frame.

it’s always a back and forth. Why? It takes two to argue. You continue to reward her with your presence in response to shitty behaviour. What do you think that's teaching her? Her frame.

She hates her job and is going to quit and stay home. Again rewarding shitty behaviour with SAHM status. Her frame.

The day the younger one turns preschool age she’s back to work. Your hamster. She'll never work again. Her frame.

She has absolutely no sense of dread because you have no intention of going nuclear with her. She holds all the cards, you roll over and she walks all over you at the hint of any conflict.

You have the bod, great. But you don't have the balls.

You're a child having tantrums with mommy.

That's what you must fix.

The same story gets posted here every week. Drop your ego, read about dread and playing your nice card, but realize that to potentially save your marriage and or wife, you are on the wrong sub. We fix you. You must be wiling to burn it all down. Otherwise hand her the keys to your life, you'll forever be a sexless beta provider with a bitchy SAHM.

Stay here, read. You can fix you. But you have a long way to go. Welcome, Get to work. Start by shutting your fucking mouth. You DEER to your wife way too much, get dragged into verbal intercourse and lose every time because you don't have the tools to fight with. Her frame.

[–]johneyapocalypse3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

Nice post.

Blow Jobs once in a blue moon. You allow this, so she doesn't have to put out. Her frame.

Side bar. Lift. Increase your SMV. Look good. 12 Rules of Dread.

Anything more specific as it relates to "you allow this" when it comes to "blow jobs once in a blue moon"?

[–]resolutions3165 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

He means that his wife understands that he will not leave her or go outside the marriage because of this.

She controls the sex; the commitment is what OP controls, but his wife knows he is not willing or able to exercise this control.

All things in any relationship you are currently in, you implicitly accept. Otherwise, you wouldn't be in that relationship, would you?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I approve this message.

[–]johneyapocalypse1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I get it. Makes sense. Thanks.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wow. You fixed that vomit up like a surgeon! Painfully accurate.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret6 points7 points  (8 children) | Copy

I think this problem is understated here on the sub. I would try to coin a phrase but it will be shot to pieces, so I will just describe it as what appears as the immune wife. You say you have done everything. Your self defeated post would have me believe MRP has not worked for you. I do support the concept that some wives are in the " extra hard" basket. But the reality is likely that you just have not found the right recipe.

The key ingredient that seems to be missing in your text is Dread. That is, the fear that she will lose out if she does not change - social standing, divorce, income, whatever. She sounds way too comfortable - Good looking husband who runs the ship, but the reality is she is pulling the strings on you. Doggie is degrading? She doesn't submit or feel she should submit to you? - she lacks desire. She's too comfortable. She doesn't need to sex you cause she gets it all anyway.

Women who complain about minor shit are either bored or have it too good, give her hamster something real to spin about. You say yourself when you dread her she turned it on. It all comes back to her connecting the dots that her happy life is somewhat dependent on your happiness, which like most men hinges on regular sex, desire and submission.

[–]johneyapocalypse2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy

The immune wife. I like that.

Just added to my list of notable quotes.

And on the practical side, this is good, too:

Women who complain about minor shit are either bored or have it too good, give her hamster something real to spin about... connecting the dots that her happy life is somewhat dependent on your happiness...

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

Manufactured outrage

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Instant tingles - Just add drama!

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

You'd be surprised how much pushback this gets. Bogey and I have used it to great effect.

Beats waiting for her to fire the first salvos

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why wait for the hamster to spin, when you can make the little fucker vomit from the G's by grabbing it like the big Price is Right finale?

Guilty.

I can see the pushback though, if you're not in a place where her wheel is simply another toy, giving it a spin on purpose must be terrifying and virtually incomprehensible.

"You're toying with her emotions!!"

Yeah.

[–]johneyapocalypse0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

You have an example or a prior post?

This is along the lines of something I read not too long ago. Knowing that shit tests give the little ladies the feels, he used that to his advantage and turned them into a good thing.

Damn, how different.

This sounds similar.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

on the sidebar, mystery method from steelsharpenssteel.

it's push pull. book of pook talks about it too

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely essential.

[–]Senor_Martillo5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Bear in mind: once a woman achieves SAHM status: your divorce rape becomes 10x more brutal. She'll get more custody, more alimony, more child support, and keep the house. You'll get a shitty apartment and see the kids on the weekends.

You gotta keep her working.

[–]chairitystripe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just posted above. I don't want the kids in daycare anymore. At the same time, I don't want it to look like a reward.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

Have you ever told her to shut up?

[–]chairitystripe[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

I can't tell if you're serious. No, I haven't.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Try it

[–]sleepkeeping0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He’s deadly serious.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He is telling you to start taking charge. One way to do that is to tell a complaining chatterbox to shut up. It is not cruel or mean. It is taking charge. Try it.

[–]gettingmymojobackRed Beret4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

You sound like a really Nice Guy.

u/Triadis3 nailed it and saved me from having to type out a long winded response on mobile. You should kill your ego and take his advice word for word.

[–]DanceMonkeeDanceRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I bet he feels guilty when he tells her no, so he doesn't.

[–]gettingmymojobackRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Too bad there isn’t a guide for dealing with that.

[–]RPJMRP2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Triadis just crushed it in his response. I'll add that you tolerate this shitty behavior. You endorse it because she has no negative consequences for her actions. How could she? She lives in a fantasy land where she doesn't have to clean or fuck and her cunt of a husband will handle everything.

You've made your go plan? How much money is in your side account for when you leave? You've read all of the sidebar, Correct?

She's seen other women flirt with you? You're fun?

This is your life, time to get serious.

What do you want?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red3 points4 points  (29 children) | Copy

I’m in better shape than 99.9 percent of men.

BS. At 6' 185# you are skinny fat at best. I am 5'10" at 225 and guarantee I am fitter and more muscular than you.

Fun story:

My wife is a SAHM as well. I recently turned off Facebook again. I go in spurts with it, having kids and all family likes the updates.

Anyway, one of the women on FB I am friends with sent my wife a PM on there asking her if I de-friended her, and if I was mad at her for something...

My balls have literally gotten to the point of soreness from the BJ's and sex over the last few days.

Your doing it all wrong friend.

Oh, and you wife does not deserve to be a SAHM. But that isn't her fault.

[–]2ndalRed Beret1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

I'm 5'11" and 180 - can I see what you look like at 5'10" 225? Doesn't even have to be you, but someone who has your body style. As someone who is currently bulking I am curious how far it can take me.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I have posted pics before. Check my history.

[–]2ndalRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

found it, thanks.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

His cannon ball shoulders are the size of his head

[–]2ndalRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

indeed

[–]chairitystripe[S] -1 points0 points  (23 children) | Copy

How could you assume skinny fat from that? And there’s a good chance, minus test, that at 5’10 225 you’re thick. It’s not a big deal, I just don’t know where you would get any of this.

Did your wife become SAHM before or after you started here?

[–]rocknrollchuck1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Anybody can assume anything from anything anybody writes here. Post a pic, that will tell everyone what we need to know.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP, Chuck is another built 48 y.o. guy.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (19 children) | Copy

minus test

Damn right I am thick son. 250/350/500 Test/Tren/Mast a week will make you thick and squatting 4 plates and DL'ing 5. Validation from you, is not something I need.

If you were pulling serious weight, at 6' you would weigh more than 185. It's how you say you are better than 99.9% of men that rubs the wrong way. You are not. So get your ego in check if you want to be around here with the big boys and ask for advice.

My wife earned the right to stay home years ago.

She never told me she hated her job and that she was going to quit. I have been owning my shit for decades my man.

My wife is not a bitch, because I am not a faggot like you.

You are a "hot mess" if you even understand what that is my friend. You need to OYS, and that starts with having a realistic, no BS assessment of who you are. You do not start off saying your better than 99.9% of men, and trying to tell us why you are so bad ass.

You not. Your wife is a reflection of you.

You dont tell your wife you are going to "look for another girl." You just do it. What are you going to do? Make mommy mad? Your a validation seeking cuck.

She said she didn’t feel well.

I wouldn't feel well either living with this kind of crap. You need to lead. And you can only lead from a point of clarity, kill the fucking ego.

I want to take you up on that offer.

Then do it and STFU.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy

It's how you say you are better than 99.9% of men that rubs the wrong way. You are not.

It's a different locker room in here, OP. Just "don't be fat" doesn't cut it.

Me

5'10, 210, natty.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

For fun, maybe this summer, go to 200.

While you look better than most (95%) 45+men...at 200 you can be better than most 25 yr olds too

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

will take 6 weeks

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Agreed - Dec 1 was the start of my keto cut. Goal of glorious abs for summer.

My problem is I LOVE to lift heavy shit, bulking has always been easy. So I tend to creep toward the powerlifter build.

Cutting gets me the definition I want, but fuck it's hard on my huge ego to not see any progression in my lifts.

I miss bread.

But, if it wasn't hard, everybody would be doing it. Mission creep toward the comfort zone.

Thanks for the advice.

Watch these pages...

[–]rocknrollchuck1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Bulking is easy for me as well, as I love to eat - aaaaaaand my wife is a chef from Eastern Europe, makes everything from scratch. Do you have any idea how hard it is to lose weight when you wake up on Saturday morning and smell fresh homemade bread getting ready to come out of the oven?

I used to be fat. Then I did I.F. and lost 68 lbs. Then I started lifting weights and slowly bulked up. Finally I decided to cut so I could lose the "fluffy" look. At 48 years old, 6' and 220 lbs (natty) I'm in the best shape I've ever been. All thanks to MRP.

Bulk until you hate yourself. Cut until you hate your life. Then suck it up and cut another 10 lbs.

[–]chairitystripe[S] -3 points-2 points  (9 children) | Copy

Regardless of what I'm doing wrong at home with my wife, you're taking steroids and test. Getting "thick" off of that is nothing to be proud of. Everyone can tell you're juiced up, you likely have awful acne, and you're going to have a heart attack in your 50's.

Also, you need to read harder. I never said I was better than 99% of men. I have a better body. Which is true.

Also, if you have it so perfect at home, why are you on this forum?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

To give faggots like you advice.

[–]chairitystripe[S] -1 points0 points  (5 children) | Copy

Thanks. I’ll tell you one thing though. My wife is 5’6” 120 and looks great. My advice for you is get your 156 pound wife to the gym, because she doesn’t look good at that weight. You’re doing it wrong.

[–]snatch_haggis2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Thanks. I’ll tell you one thing though. My wife is 5’6” 120 and looks great.

Doesn't matter what she looks like if she's not fucking you, holmes.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

fact is if she looks that good, and she is not fucking OP then who is she fucking?

[–]snatch_haggis2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

she is not fucking OP then who is she fucking?

With a full time job, a 1 year old and 2 year old and a man (child #3 really) who throws a tantrum when she leaves her shoes out, she probably feels sexy about twice a year.

Damn right she's gonna dive on the first dick that gives her tingles, though.

On second thought, OP, perhaps we should reach out to your wife in an advisory capacity. A sort of... Intensive coaching session. To help you move things forward.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That was a long time ago. But thanks for the advice. I can take it better than you.

Edit: So she looks great, 120# and 5-6” and she doesn’t want to fuck you? Bet she would fuck Brad Pitt.

Between that scenario and mine from a long time ago, I would take the 156# wife who fucks me as much as I want vs what you have. My wife fixed her issue.

PS: Stop DEERing faggot.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Getting "thick" off of that is nothing to be proud of.

I don't cycle, but I do know this: Steroids aren't a magic potion. All they do is repair muscle faster. If you don't work your fucking ass off, they are functionally useless. 3 of my friends have done cycles. Only one actually grew from it, because he stopped drinking, and lifted instead

Ask yourself this. Are you working out hard enough, and eating well enough that your recovery time is the bottleneck in your life? If it isn't, best to give anabolism the respect that due.

Everyone can tell you're juiced up, you likely have awful acne, and you're going to have a heart attack in your 50's.

  1. if that were truw, muscle mags wouldn't sell 'natural' workout plans with roid monkeys on the cover

  2. like baldness, this is a genetic predisposition, some get it, some don't.

  3. if you're taking 2000cc at a time, maybe. That was from bodybuilders, who built up too much muscle for the heart to manage. Until you're hitting 300 swole lbs, it's no concern.

[–]sleepkeeping0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You ask for advice, then attack one of the veterans. Get the fuck out of here.

[–]snatch_haggis1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you understand what DEERing is man? You're flipping all of this back because your ego can't handle it.

You don't need to call red fat to say "I'm happy with my body", unless you have no frame. And that's the larger point. Whatever you're doing physically, whether it works or doesn't, you have zero frame and zero leadership in your home. You get that, at some level, or you wouldn't be here.

So stop being so defensive and own your faults, and stop trying to find fault in others to deflect from that.

[–]BobbyPeru1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

So it’s always a back and forth.

Only if you reply. Learn how to STFU and DNGAF.

Your post tells me you have a lot of sidebar reading to do.

STFU and Dread is what you need to be working on.

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your wife does these things because they work. She is able to get under your skin because you give way too many fucks about what she thinks about you. Learn how to use amused mastery. She is just the most responsible teenager in the house, and you're letting her bitchiness and comments get to you? You're a grown ass man, next time she calls you out, rise above that shit and do what you want on your own terms.

Don't engage in the back and forth, just shut it down right away. Maintain control of the conversation by talking when you want. In your example about the shoes, you tell her to clean up her shoes and she tries to pressure flip it on you, it's perfectly acceptable to not reply, or just say "ok. So are you going to pick them up or what?"

Just don't engage, rise above the shit and don't take her so seriously.

[–]snatch_haggis1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP. In that order. Stop wasting people's time until you've read at least that far. And start posting in OYS weekly, that's where this goes, it's not really an ASKMRP, it's a loosely structured victim puke.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sure you can change ..... but are you ready to put in the work ?

How about read Way of the Superior Male....

Just curious, but if you are actually stupid enough to ask her about fucking another, due to her comment, do you have any idea what you even want ?

[–]Flagfootball990 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Your wife sounds like mine used to be. She resents you. Period. No respect for you. You need to read the sidebar and unfuck yourself. When y’all got married she thought she getting x, but she got y.

Do you think Brad Pitt would walk around the house and bicker and whine to her about picking up her shoes??? Really, Who gives a fuck.

For starters, stop initiating only at perfect times- like kids taking a nap or at bed time. You need to be initiating at all times. Kino all day, text game, track her period so you know when to maximize your alpha behavior and minimize it show some comfort, etc.

She’s not attracted to you dude. Increase your SMV, build passive dread, play the lead role in your own life, be awesome, lead, develope a vision, plan cool shit to do with her, get interesting hobbies, away from the house (her), stop giving 2 shits about anal bullshit around the house, practice day game, catch and release, abundance mentality, etc ...

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sure enough later that night she initiated (rare)

Dread Game can backfire- but not in this case.

Dread is not just for breakfast any more.

[–]openwheelr0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Been there. You're lacking in leadership. Do you seek approval for house projects or do you just go and execute? Do you have a plan for every weekend or do you wait to be told what the family will be doing? Stop asking and start doing. Always have a plan. I've been applying this to the bedroom and everywhere else. No more "down" days at home. Always have something mentally charted out that needs to be done. Me, I maintain the cars and the house so there is always something. I fucked up when we moved into a house that needed some work and I let her direct everything. Things started to turn around when I began throwing myself into projects of my own volition. Stop pointing out shit that she hasn't done, like leaving shoes lay around or whatever. Deal with it yourself if you want, and lead by example.

Do you ask for doggie and oral? When I found the balls to start taking what I want rather than ask I was surprised at how easy it was. Doesn't happen in a vacuum though. I was moving on the leadership and fitness fronts at the same time.

Stay the hell out of her frame. Demonstrate that you truly DNGAF about outbursts and emotionally-driven bullshit and keep your mouth shut. Her complaining is a cry for leadership.

[–]chairitystripe[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Thanks for the response. A few questions/comments:

House projects. My wife has unreasonable expectations about certain things around the house. I’m handy enough. But I can’t build a laundry room, renovate a bathroom (tile, etc). “Learning” how to do those things isn’t easy. I can do plumbing, minimal electric work, etc. but some of the things she wants I simply can’t do. When I mention paying somebody she says “we’re not paying somebody to do that.”

Weekend planning: I can definitely do that better. Our kids take naps....and she usually bitches that they “won’t get their naps” if we are out for long periods of time. Then she bitches about them being crabby when they don’t have their naps. I’m guessing I just ignore her? I really DGAF when she bitches but it’s still annoying. Is that when I just leave the house to lift?

Chores: I take care of the cars and the house. She doesn’t cook. I know how to cook. But if I keep doing chores and other things...aren’t I enabling her to be lazy/not contribute. I feel like she’s being rewarded for bad behavior then.

Sex: I don’t ask, but when I attempt new positions, I get “what are you doing?” with resistance. Flipping her over for doggie usually results in her bitching. Is that the time to cut the sex session off and just go lift?

Outbursts: Do you simply ignore her like she isn’t there with no response?

Thanks.

[–]openwheelr0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Well I can only describe what works for me. Your mileage may vary...

House stuff - you're ahead of the game if you can handle light electrical/plumbing. Over 15 years and three houses I've picked up new skills in small increments. I'm lucky in that my wife enjoys some tasks that I don't, like painting and finishing drywall. YouTube is your friend. Tile for example isn't that bad, but it is time consuming and takes attention to detail. My first tile project was a stair landing, then I tackled entire rooms. It's like anything else, it helps to get out of your comfort zone a little. If you pick something you find 75% doable and then figure out the rest, that may help with her expectations, assuming it goes well. Just don't trumpet your success.

Its a tough stage when the kids need to nap. It get a little easier when they're a bit older and sports and play dates start to eat up weekends. I do believe in having a plan for every weekend in my mind. Small projects, broken shit to fix, etc. Then when I find myself free I can just say 'Hey I'm going to Home Depot, auto parts store, etc". and go about my task. I don't announce my list or anything..and at this point we're so busy that I just need things to fill the few empty hours we do have between kid activities. The bitching, yeah continue to DNGAF about all that. I've found that making myself useful (no bragging or telegraphing about all the great shit you're going to start doing) has really decreased the bitching and complaining.

I do the bulk of the housework. There are things she handles that I do not however. Household work is probably still 60/40 on me. I look at it as leading by example. If she's truly not contributing, let her know by letting some shit slide on your end. We have separate bathrooms, and I would just stop cleaning her toilet for a few weeks for example.

Outbursts - for me I chalked some of that up to the stress of having two small kids. If you start to own your shit, their frequency will definitely decrease.

Sex - again it got easier for me to get what I want by a)not asking, just doing and b)owning my shit in general. In my case, she finds a little bit of uncertainty exciting so asking for stuff just ruins that completely. Took me a long time to figure that out.

Good luck!

[–]chairitystripe[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

One more thing about the housework.

She will re-do counters after I do them, sometimes re vacuum, etc. It’s not me doing a half ass job. It’s her just being her. I know I should not GAF about it. But when you spend an hour doing something and then somebody redoes that work, how can it not feel like you wasted an hour of your time? I know it’s HER wasting HER time, but in reality you could’ve been doing something for that our like lifting.

[–]openwheelr0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Is she a perfectionist? I am to an extent, in fact I'll admit to redoing stuff like that after my wife (especially counters). It's a little OCD on my part. I would ignore it, maybe she can't help herself.

[–]PeggedByOwlette0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Your presence will only he valued in its absence. Also, dude, she's never going back to work of she quits and if you accept that lifestyle you can kiss the pussy goodbye.

You are in fantastic shape, clean, cook, are employed well enough to support the family on your own, and are a good father.

Replacing you is hard as fuck for her.

Remember the cardnel rule of relationships.

The person who needs the other the least has all the power.

[–]chairitystripe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

By absence, do you mean more just leaving he house and lifting?

As for the not working. The timing is shitty given the fact that I have a lot of work to do. But her staying home will actually benefit me a ton. I’ll have more time to work. I probably work 2 less hours/day right now than I should because I leave later to help in the morning...and come home earlier to help out with night routine. I also really want to see my kids more during the weekdays.

I truly need her less than she needs me. Hell, the fact that she’s not putting out right now means I almost don’t need her at all. Her role right now is limited to being a mother.



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