6 weeks RP, lifting, 174 (-19), 23%bf, me 50 her 43, captaining well, her floating off in tethered life boat, frame pretty good, sidebar, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Gorilla Mindset, TRM, reading Conversation Casanova.
Second month tracking her cycle. For the second consecutive month, during pms she took great offense at something minor and started week-long cold treatment. Now, just like last time, we've had 8 days of winter and ovulation is about to start, now whenever I'm trying to initiate she is saying how if I want to get some action then we "need to discuss a few things." I recognize the pattern; she is going to demand an apology--single-mindedly--so that a week of enthusiastic sex (lingerie, initiating, etc) will ensue. She's going overt because I haven't "picked up on" the cold treatment and apologized already, I guess.
Needless to say, at one level I am tempted to give in and make the stupid apology so as not to miss the only action I have going at the moment. But of course I don't want to do that either.
I am preparing to try fogging her and using negative inquiries but I don't think it is going to work. I don't mean to sound negative but she really doesn't listen in these conversations and just broken records me with the demand for a full and unqualified groveling apology.
Even more dangerous, I also feel tempted to say that what she is offering me is transactional love and I really want to tell her to shove it up her ass and keep it. In my mental rehearsals (bad I know) we get to discussing the "big D" about two sentences later.
I am in STFU stage and know it but I am concerned that without a good strategy going into the inevitable conversation--which will be sprung at the least convenient moment--things could go sideways badly. I appreciate any suggestions and have the flame suit all zipped up.
tl;dr: Wife planning to demand an unreasonable apology for some minor b.s., thirty days of no sex at stake, need a strategy going in beyond toughing it out so I don't wimp out.