I see a lot of guys come on here because their sex life sucks. They start the RP journey and 2-4 weeks later they post complaining about the lack of sex or starfish sex or being butt hurt.
I have some advice for RP newbies: forget about sex. If you were separated and single, would you need sex ? Nope, you could do without it. If you were on a business trip away from your wife, would you need sex ? Nope. You'd do without it. You've done it before, you can do it again.
For a lot of newbie RP guys, sex is either a compliance test for the wife or the man needs sexual affirmation from her. Neither is a good thing !
In the early days of MAP, forget about sex. Stop fapping, stop begging, stop being butt hurt. Yes it hurts emotionally that she is rejecting your needs, but continually asking her only reinforces that she has the power and makes you look desperate and needy. Do you want these things ? No.
So forget about sex, until it is obvious that she is ready.
The lack of sex in your relationship is just a symptom. You need to fix things before the sex will return. So work on fixing things. OYS. Dig in and get the work done. Start your dread program. Lift. Read. Sleep. Rinse. Repeat. She'll let you know when she finds you attractive. Initiate periodically, be OI, but don't be focused on sex. Focus on you.
And don't think that just because you transform that the sex will come. That is a covert expectation. You can fix you. You can't fix her. You can't control her emotions. You can't negotiate her desire. So don't try and don't expect it to.
You control you. You can build yourself into an awesome man. And if the relationship, including sex, doesn't meet your expectations, you have options. Options are what transform victims into survivors.
It is almost impossible to eliminate a behaviour without substituting a new behaviour. So what are you going to do instead of asking for and having sex ?