procrastination and adulting

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October 23, 2017
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u/RuleZeroDAD:

procrastination is the hallmark of the smart person who never learned to work hard.

and:

We come from the crew that took pride in "never having to study" throughout even graduate school. When things come easy young, "adulting" ends up being hard.

Who here has success with actually becoming a hard-working ass kicker after a lifetime of procrastination? Obviously part of it has to be just finally realizing that I'm twiddling my life away. But any specific tips or resources that helped you with that shift in mindset?


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Title procrastination and adulting
Author NoneSuchAs
Upvotes 7
Comments 25
Date 23 October 2017 03:34 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret7 points8 points  (12 children) | Copy

Most don't, hence the 80/20 rule that isn't solely populated with intelligent men.

I needed to get sick and fail at basic marriage 101 stuff to move the needle. I can honestly thank my wife for becoming disgusted enough with my self-pity.

Believe it or not, lifting and diet have been the best teachers against procrastination and reactive behaviors. You have to GO TO the gym. You need to PLAN and EXECUTE your meals.

It is the shift to "work disciplined" vice "work smart" mindset.

Waiting to the last second does not account for variables outside yourself. Getting things done or started timely accounts for the unforeseen. It is a discipline that must be borne out of habit.

Use your good MRP habits to foster an effective work ethic.

Own Your Shit.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Confirmed. I just started a 3x a week gym routine and owning my diet with MyFitnessPal. I haven't been this energized in years and I'm not looking back.

Edit: And it gets me out of the house and around motivated people 3x a week plus whenever I feel like.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

3 of the best essays out there on procrastination:

https://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html

https://waitbutwhy.com/2013/11/how-to-beat-procrastination.html

https://waitbutwhy.com/2015/03/procrastination-matrix.html

And to answer your question, I coasted through high school, and bombed through college (mainly because I coasted through high school). I failed like you wouldn't believe.

The real shift in mindset for me was that it was all up to me to change my life. And failing is why I became successful. I had to want it. I had to want the good life, the education, the career, the relationships - I had to want it so bad that I had to do something about it.

[–]hystericalbonding2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

There are whole books on this subject. I've been meaning to read some. Maybe tomorrow...

Who here has success with actually becoming a hard-working ass kicker after a lifetime of procrastination?

It's easier when your mission is your own. If you don't care about it, then either cut it out or plan a way to get it done. Don't wait until it's convenient. It will never be convenient.

I pay people to do the things that I would ordinarily postpone.

[–]bala-key1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Jocko Willink books and podcasts.

[–]drty_prRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Whatever you're doing while you procrastinate about what you should be doing, stop doing it. For me it was pot and alcohol. So I quite smoking up and cut my alcohol consumption down to a social level. Now instead of wanting to do nothing and hangout with fellow friends who were looking to get fucked up, I do the jobs on my list that need to get done and have fun with hobbies.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Is procrastination the opposite of a hard worker? I used to procrastinate like mad, but then I'd kill whatever it was I wanted to do. Why? The motivation was "I don't want to let so and so down." Now, the focus has shifted to not letting myself down. As for procrastination, it's acknowledgement that I feel accomplished when I get shit done. So I do it for present me, and I do it for future me.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Who here has success with actually becoming a hard-working ass kicker after a lifetime of procrastination?

I have been a consultant nearly my entire professional career of 21 years. I learned 19 years ago that it is far better to finish a project early, and continue to look busy on other things than to wait until the last minute, cram it in and fail.

Do not sit on your ass, and wait for the last minute on something. If you have a 100 hour budget, but you know you only need 60 hours to get it done, spend 60 hours up front, and then coast the next 40 or delivery early or work on project #2 ahead of time.

Time is a resource you cannot purchase more of.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Feigned urgency.

One fills the task with the time assigned. Unlimited time? Unlimited delay

[–]zeteomegaleio0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The best way I know is to hit rock bottom from being a total fucking loser and not kill yourself. Because the work to get out of that special hell and turn into a different person who will never go back to being the way you were is so brutal that it requires you build discipline.

If you don't want to do that, then lift and want something so bad that there is no choice but to be disciplined enough to make it happen. And remove all the shit holding you back - distractions that waste your time and keep you from what needs to get done.

Simple, but not easy. Just don't go all out on Day 1. Be smart in building your disciplined habits, just like how you pace yourself when lifting.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

At the risk of sounding the the neighborhood pharmacist, I'm going to blame my discipline on drugs.

  1. Naltrexone. Helped my become an almost teetotaler without being insufferable about it.
  2. Clomid. Corrected my T and gave me tons of energy that needed direction.
  3. Vallium. Cured my anxiety and paralysis by analysis. Decisions are now clear and easily reached.

Men are meant to be industrious. What exactly is holding you back? Do you prefer to veg and watch netflix? Do you have a behavioral stumbling block?



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