I'm posting in askmrp instead of marriedredpill becaise I see the askmrp community as a place for open ended dicussions. I do not have any wisdom to share but if someone wants to point out something I am doing wrong feel free. If field reports should be on marriedredpill let me know.
I've decided Friday nights I'm going to reward myself with something. Work all week and I just want to veg and play a video game or watch a movie or something.
Wife sent a text earlier in the day that she wanted to have a meeting after the kids went to bed and a hint that sounded like sex. I didn't respond because I was working.
Before the kids went to bed I told her I was going to play a video game after the kids went to bed. She reminded me of the meeting. So we got the kids to bed and I said lets make this quick. That upset her.
We talked about finances. Overspending had to be addressed. That upset her.
I mentioned us getting into cardio shape for an upcoming trip (i already lift). That upset her. Had to own that and I changed it to, I am going to get into cardio shape.
In short every topic upset her.
She watched her show. I played my game. She goes to bed. I initiate sex. She says she isn't having sex. Doesn't bother me, I simply get up and start playing my game again.
5 minutes later she gets out of bed and rants. Says she doesn't feel loved and she isn't having sex unless she feels loved. I ask "how can I make you feel loved?" She says "I don't know". I'm thinking ok, she is just wanting to rant so STFU. I let her rant. She goes to bed. I continue my game.
I'm not interested in catering to her emotional whims. I used to. In the past I would be apologizing for literally nothing that I had done wrong. I'm not doing that anymore. I wanted to play a game. I wanted sex. She didn't. This should not have been a big deal. But it was a big deal to her apparently.
Tldr; women don't make sense. Practicing STFU.