So I have been awash in a sea of shit and comfort tests this weekend. my wife and I are early 30s, both work, and we have two businesses that we hope will take us to an early retirement. one business is more her passion project and one is more mine. pre rp we would work together on everything, but our businesses became an extension of her grabbing me by the balls and twisting. as I've been fixing myself, marriage has improved a lot. however now I'm at a point with the businesses where I just don't want to work with her. I don't want relevant briefings contingent on her feeling like I deserve them. I don't want to be told she will find a new business partner because she is upset I am calling from a Hooters in Panama city. I don't want money and charged personal feelings mixing.
I want her to do her business and be successful, and ask for my help as needed, and I want to run mine without her unless I want her opinion on something specific. however, she doesn't want to be left out of my enterprises, and she wants me involved in hers.
i am torn on this decision: Should I be rising to the level of leadership that would enable me to overcome the challenges of working with her for a stronger marriage? or if I have identified that I want to be separate in business simply because I want that facet of my life to be free of shit tests and emotions, so be it?