There was a recent post about applying too much punishment and minimizing too much time and attention. Really hit home for me.
This month my wife has been a little more harpy and bitchy than normal because she started back at work (teacher). Kids are also busy with school…. I've been getting hard no's lately. I pulled back time and attention and really ramped up the punishment and dread.. I was able to pull her lately– she'll come seek me out in the house to see what I’m doing in the garage or playing with the kids… which is good, but I haven't been able to pull her sexually though. I started to question wtf im doing wrong and why doesn't this work anymore. I always hate this time of year when her job starts back up..totally fucks up my game I've built all summer.
Tried something different yesterday. Instead of continuous punishment, I can home from work in a cocky and playful mode. Slapped that ass in the kitchen. Did homework with the kids, pulling her in for a kiss when she passed by, showing my boys how i can squat mom… she got all playful, great laughing mood, picked her up and mauled her on the kitchen counter, etc..
Later that evening, She tells me “I’m glad that u got that carrot out of your ass you had lately.” Of course, I replied telling her to bend over so I can shove it up her ass now.. She was laughing , playful, giddy all night. Made for a great night of sex.
Her comment is interesting..though. Im Realizing that everything is but a half truth. The last few weeks, I would have said that dread is all you need , bc it worked wonders for me the last 3 years of finding this place, (previous 10 yr dead bedroom), however it wasn’t giving me the results I wanted all month. now judging from my actions yesterday, I could say that cocky and playful is the only thing. Etc.
There is never just one thing. I see now that everything is important. It all needs to be balanced for it to work. It's good to be reminded that these are all just tools to use. A Toolbox. Don’t get set on just one thing. When u hear that u only need this one thing, this one diet, this one workout plan, this one stock, this one trick, etc. It's probably not true. You need everything. Everything is important. There's nothing not important. It's all important.
I was so hung up on applying dread and punishment all month bc i wasn’t getting any pussy, I totally lost track of my manhood, my mission. Got back on track and wife responds. Fixed her feelz...