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Beware of Half Truths

by Alpha_Engineer99 | September 13, 2017 | askMRP

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There was a recent post about applying too much punishment and minimizing too much time and attention. Really hit home for me.

This month my wife has been a little more harpy and bitchy than normal because she started back at work (teacher). Kids are also busy with school…. I've been getting hard no's lately. I pulled back time and attention and really ramped up the punishment and dread.. I was able to pull her lately– she'll come seek me out in the house to see what I’m doing in the garage or playing with the kids… which is good, but I haven't been able to pull her sexually though. I started to question wtf im doing wrong and why doesn't this work anymore. I always hate this time of year when her job starts back up..totally fucks up my game I've built all summer.

Tried something different yesterday. Instead of continuous punishment, I can home from work in a cocky and playful mode. Slapped that ass in the kitchen. Did homework with the kids, pulling her in for a kiss when she passed by, showing my boys how i can squat mom… she got all playful, great laughing mood, picked her up and mauled her on the kitchen counter, etc..

Later that evening, She tells me “I’m glad that u got that carrot out of your ass you had lately.” Of course, I replied telling her to bend over so I can shove it up her ass now.. She was laughing , playful, giddy all night. Made for a great night of sex.

Her comment is interesting..though. Im Realizing that everything is but a half truth. The last few weeks, I would have said that dread is all you need , bc it worked wonders for me the last 3 years of finding this place, (previous 10 yr dead bedroom), however it wasn’t giving me the results I wanted all month. now judging from my actions yesterday, I could say that cocky and playful is the only thing. Etc.

There is never just one thing. I see now that everything is important. It all needs to be balanced for it to work. It's good to be reminded that these are all just tools to use. A Toolbox. Don’t get set on just one thing. When u hear that u only need this one thing, this one diet, this one workout plan, this one stock, this one trick, etc. It's probably not true. You need everything. Everything is important. There's nothing not important. It's all important.

I was so hung up on applying dread and punishment all month bc i wasn’t getting any pussy, I totally lost track of my manhood, my mission. Got back on track and wife responds. Fixed her feelz...


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Title Beware of Half Truths
Author Alpha_Engineer99
Upvotes 20
Comments 22
Date 13 September 2017 04:50 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/205477
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[–]resolutions3167 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

"A red pill man is a happy man."

It's got to be fun. You've got to be so awesome you pull her into your orbit. Otherwise, dread doesn't work....because who dreads losing a bum out?

Good realization.

[–]RPWolfAlpha_as_Wolf_2.02 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Excellent post for me. I was called out recently that I am all push and no pull. I spent so much time being beta and care taking that when I found MRP I spent too much time focusing on punishment.

After being called out I did almost verbatim what you described above yesterday. Came home and was extremely playful, grabbed my wife as she walked by in the kitchen and kissed her for 10 seconds and slapped her ass. As I was getting ready to go to football practice I called her upstairs. When she came in the room, I pinned her against the wall and kissed her. I picked her up and put her on the bed. The entire time shes protesting that I would be late to practice. I replied "I'm the coach, I decide when practice starts." I pulled her pants around her ankles and cave manned her right there. When I was done she said, "I dont know how to take you, that was amazing but you are so different then just last week."

That comment made me think. I hadnt noticed that I was acting any different at all. It was just subtle differences and balance. I was doing all push and no pull, so I tried pulling and it worked.

[–]hystericalbonding1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

. I was able to pull her lately– she'll come seek me out in the house to see what I’m doing in the garage or playing with the kids

That's not what we usually mean when we talk about push/pull, in the PUA sense. Your cocky, fun, playful behavior was a pull. Withdrawing attention is a push. Responses to shit tests can be either, and are ideally a mix of both.

All push can definitely get you laid, but raises the risk of an unhappy FO having an emotional affair. All pull is one of the mistakes made by teenaged incels everywhere. A mix of both is best, calibrated to the target and your own demeanor.

Most new guys have been all pull for most of the marriage, so going to the opposite extreme shocks the system and gets results, while also ensuring that they don't fall back into old traps. Eventually, most sensible guys figure out a good mix of push and pull.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

A more appropriate title would have been "Beware of Half Assing."

When I'm trying to fix something around my house I always have a full tool belt or my box. I don't just bring my hammer because I know all I'm doing is putting in a nail for a picture, because what if when I'm done with that I realize I need to take a look at the sink or tighten a light switch cover?

You need to have the full MRP tool kit with you at all times and always be ready to pull he right concept out to deal with the issue at hand. That's not to say you can't focus on one concept specifically, but spotting issues and knowing what tool to use are key to MRP mastery.

Personally, I find the only tool I typically need is conveniently kept in my pants.

[–]Alpha_Engineer99[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Love it. Laughed out loud at the ending. Thanks. mastery ? Spergs around here think that the heavens and earth will open for you -if only you do that "one thing". Ha.

Exactly my point. There is no "one thing". It's a gradient of things blended together.

Dude, just fix that shit attitude and the heavens will open and ur wife legs with spread like the red sea, dude just be positive and see everything as a challenge.. And everything will be fine, dude, take some criticism all it it will be great for you. Dude don't be outcome independent.

Peoples' RAS focuses on what they think is important at the moment and try to apply it to everything. It's how the law of attraction works.

[–]AustralianArm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Seems to me that continually punishing your wife turned you into a woman and she didn't like it. You probably gave off the vibe of being butthurt with her.

Withdraw affection and time but still be fun when she's in your realm.

[–]fuckmrpRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Consistency (outside of owning your shit) creates zero fucking tingles. Her hamster needs something to chew on. Every now and then I go cold for no reason, no kino, no initiation but still happy, still available. The break in behavior is what she notices. I'll usually find her laying naked on our bed within a day or two.

I'll do the same with arguments, use them to create tension, hold tension, then initiate later on. You need to learn how to push her buttons though, this is different for every woman. The tension should come from the argument itself don't fuck with real issues.

For any of this to work she needs to want to fuck you in the first place.

[–]Alpha_Engineer99[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good comment. thanks. A little more thought than the "heavens and earth will open" if she likes you.

[–]470_2_700_nm-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Blackdragonblog puts it best. You found Alpha 2.0 for a second, and she liked it:

http://www.blackdragonblog.com/the-alpha-male-2-0/



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