How did you deal with MRP in the early days?

I actually came here to ask a question not answer one, but I think I can help. I have only taken the red pill three weeks. But I have had inklings for a decade or more. I'm 55 and have been married for 29 years and have six kids. Our marriage really hit a wall in 1999. Kids were really young and my wife was overwhelmed. And she obviously needed help. I had a job that required me to travel 75% of the time and was always horny for her but she had no desire. I went super beta and tried as hard as I could to help her when I was home. I accepted the scraps she offered usually once a month sexually, and tried to keep it together. I existed that way for five years before I blew up. I decided that I needed to seek out someone else. That proved not so easy. I didn't have game to start with and after a decade of marriage things were even worse. It took me five years on and off to even get to bed trying to pick up women online. I bought a lot of PUA programs to start developing my ability to actually land a woman to cheat with. If you're starving for sex and that is how she controls you, then you have to cancel that ticket. You cant be strong and alpha if you're starving. If you have to go somewhere else to eat then do so. Once you're not starving, you can make rational decision and choices in your marriage. Most likely she is starving too, for a number of things, conversation compliments touch. Women suppress a lot and they actually do go into a deep freeze an unfeeling state and need a man to pull them out. Make her small offers, start with things like hugging then kissing then foreplay like rubbing her shoulders or her feet. DON"T do it for sex! Women read that shit, you do it because she is your wife and you want to lead her to a place where she can feel open to you again. Express your desire and then dont ask for sex just do it! Just like all the PUA stuff when you meet a woman cold and have to seduce her to sleep with you, you have to do that with your wife. SHE wants you to do that. I came across a web site Personal Life Media that sold information from women on how to reignite your wife's passions. Sure it is blue pill but a lot of their ideas work. It gave me a strategy, to use with my wife. The big change came when she threw a shit fit (now 7 years after our low point), and I didn't react (I didn't care because I knew I could get sex elsewhere), I told her to cut it out and if she didn't she could take her shit and move back in with her parents, but I wasn't going to put up with that type of attitude anymore. She knew I meant it and Wow what a change, within minutes she was different, sweet kind compliant. Today we have sex a couple of times a week. After swallowing the red pill though there are so many things I can do better. Keep your goal in mind, what is it you want? Save your marriage? Divorce? Women are shaped by men who are Alpha, we should all be shaping our women to be what we want when we meet them but if youre beta you let her shape you. IMO, less than 2% of the women really want to actively consciously dominate their relationship. The other 98% want their man to dominate them ie. be the Alpha, but they all run the subroutine to collect and hold the food groups of power in the family. The big two: Money and time and the other three sex, chores and life direction. Alpha men keep control of the primary food groups, the one who controls three or more food groups controls the relationship and the family. You will need to get some control back from her get your marriage on track. I'm still working on that and have a long way to go to be red pill alpha. I hope this helps.