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How did you deal with MRP in the early days?

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August 31, 2017
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Specifically I mean when you were beta as fuck and realised the entire way you were running your life is why your wife doesn't fuck you anymore, that it has everything to do with you and nothing to do with her, etc?

It's hitting me pretty hard and I feel frustrated, angry at myself and like I've fucked up the last 5 years of my marriage by becoming what I "thought" I should be.

Not looking for smart ass comments just practical tips to deal with the beta to alpha transition etc knowing it'll take a while to start working etc.

Thanks fellas as always...


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Title How did you deal with MRP in the early days?
Author alwaysdoubledown82
Upvotes 7
Comments 20
Date 31 August 2017 06:40 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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Link https://theredarchive.com/post/205564
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[–]creating_my_life17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

How do you eat an elephant?

Answer: one bite at a time.

That's what your MAP is. Pick one thing. Work on it. Keep working on it. Pick another thing.

For MOST ALL MEN, the first few steps are: 1) get to a reasonable bodyfat. 2) groom and dress well. 3) lift for looks and feels. 4) start controlling your time.

Figure out where you're weakest. Are you a fat fuck? stop eating. Are you a bean pole? start lifting. Are you a slob with ugly fingernails and hair? take care of that shit. Are you a complete pussy? Pick one thing to care about. Care about it more than your marriage.

[–]chachaChad6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You also have to remember that even when you do start to run your own life, your wife may still not fuck you.

[–]mrpthrowa3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

Lift. Take your anger at iron.

Look at that bar like it's your enemy and have at it.

Then take a shower and mediate, go for walks.

[–]ruizbujc2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

If he wanted to get divorced, 95% of the time mediation isn't as helpful as people think ;)

[–]straius0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Usually by people who can't do it right and feel better claiming it doesn't work so they can give it up guilt free without putting real effort into making it a disciplined practice.

20m twice a day minimum for real results.

[–]ruizbujc1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I was making a joke on a typo.

[–]straius1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ahh, whoosh! Right over my head. Haha

  • edit

Yeah, jesus, even reading it three times I still didn't catch the missing t. Fucking dense as fuck. Lol

[–]Bobsfreestuff2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you even lift, Faggot?

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Gonna have to get over it fast.

Then you are going to have understand for constant results it's constant vigilance

Lots of guys here realixevthry threw away 20 years.

Lots of guys will never find this help or put it together

If all else fails, thank the lord you were spared what Houston is going through to get your shit together and find out what true happiness can be

[–]simbarlionRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

There is a big difference based on whether or not you used to be alpha / in charge. I was. So I look back a lot at how things used to be. My shit got derailed when wife's career provided a new source of validation. And meanwhile I went full tilt beta.

So my plan, to be honest, is to go back to what worked. And what worked you ask? Well Simba could not give a fuck about Nala cause the were lots of of cubs in the savannah. READ: I was the prize.

Everything is about you being attractive and desirable. Be that.

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Two cavemen throw their spears at a boar and they both miss. One caveman immediately starts thinking about how he can improve his spear, the other gets frustrated and emotional. Which man is more likely to survive and thrive?

Nobody is perfect, everybody fucks up. All that matters is what you do about it going forward. You can be emotional and angry but if you never get over it and adapt you're going to die like the caveman with the shitty spear.

[–]Alpha_Engineer991 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was in your shoes. Dude, try 10 years of a beta/pussy/dead bedroom and then finding this place, not 5. 10 years is a long fucking time to realize that you fucked up your life. You will turn it around, use the anger to unfuck your life (lift, side job, passive income, journal, etc.) I'm 3 years in, but my anger phase lasted about 1 year !

There was a great post (Parts 1 and 2) about a year ago in red pill about getting over your relationship PTSD. Perfect for you. See link below.

Part 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3xp2nt/get_over_your_relationship_ptsd/

Part 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6g7z88/getting_over_your_relationship_ptsd_pt_ii_give/

[–]JDRoedellRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Breath Neo.

That's why it's called the anger phase.

Also, don't assume the transition to Alpha is a given just because you are aware now.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I got to work and stopped thinking about how I feel

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I went Rambo. Not recommended.

Start lifting, start physically taking up more space in your day to day activities. Sit at the head of the table. Extend your arms out to both sides of the table. Sit up straight. That's how much space you should be taking up.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You deal with it by understanding the process which is the same as the stages of grief:

--Denial

--Anger

--Bargaining

--Acceptance

Blue Pill world ranges from total ignorance to the Denial Stage. When you unplug you stop denying reality so guess what comes next?

[–]MRPN00b0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

To be honest, I was pissed. I felt like I just wasted 20 years of my life, time, money, energy, passion etc. On a fruitless mission. In fact I was REALLY pissed. Just like the Matrix, you deny, deny, deny. Then you wake up one morning, and get to work.

-Lift -Read -STFU

Lather, rinse, repeat every damn day.

It's funny, I actually dealt with the most shit tests when I started improving myself. Truly AWALT, in more ways than you can imagine. She will block you, try to embarrass you, humiliate you, question your time at the gym, etc, etc.

Smirk, smack on the ass. Move on with your day.

Did I mention lift?

[–]sh0ckley0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Iron Temple.

Lift.

Henry Rollins "See a grown man cry/Now watch him die" - there's a piece in there about Charlie Parker and how "nice guys don't play good."

I fucked up 20+ years of my life, who cares? Nobody. And when I cared and did nothing, I was miserable.

[–]trouble29640 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I actually came here to ask a question not answer one, but I think I can help. I have only taken the red pill three weeks. But I have had inklings for a decade or more. I'm 55 and have been married for 29 years and have six kids. Our marriage really hit a wall in 1999. Kids were really young and my wife was overwhelmed. And she obviously needed help. I had a job that required me to travel 75% of the time and was always horny for her but she had no desire. I went super beta and tried as hard as I could to help her when I was home. I accepted the scraps she offered usually once a month sexually, and tried to keep it together. I existed that way for five years before I blew up. I decided that I needed to seek out someone else. That proved not so easy. I didn't have game to start with and after a decade of marriage things were even worse. It took me five years on and off to even get to bed trying to pick up women online. I bought a lot of PUA programs to start developing my ability to actually land a woman to cheat with. If you're starving for sex and that is how she controls you, then you have to cancel that ticket. You cant be strong and alpha if you're starving. If you have to go somewhere else to eat then do so. Once you're not starving, you can make rational decision and choices in your marriage. Most likely she is starving too, for a number of things, conversation compliments touch. Women suppress a lot and they actually do go into a deep freeze an unfeeling state and need a man to pull them out. Make her small offers, start with things like hugging then kissing then foreplay like rubbing her shoulders or her feet. DON"T do it for sex! Women read that shit, you do it because she is your wife and you want to lead her to a place where she can feel open to you again. Express your desire and then dont ask for sex just do it! Just like all the PUA stuff when you meet a woman cold and have to seduce her to sleep with you, you have to do that with your wife. SHE wants you to do that. I came across a web site Personal Life Media that sold information from women on how to reignite your wife's passions. Sure it is blue pill but a lot of their ideas work. It gave me a strategy, to use with my wife. The big change came when she threw a shit fit (now 7 years after our low point), and I didn't react (I didn't care because I knew I could get sex elsewhere), I told her to cut it out and if she didn't she could take her shit and move back in with her parents, but I wasn't going to put up with that type of attitude anymore. She knew I meant it and Wow what a change, within minutes she was different, sweet kind compliant. Today we have sex a couple of times a week. After swallowing the red pill though there are so many things I can do better. Keep your goal in mind, what is it you want? Save your marriage? Divorce? Women are shaped by men who are Alpha, we should all be shaping our women to be what we want when we meet them but if youre beta you let her shape you. IMO, less than 2% of the women really want to actively consciously dominate their relationship. The other 98% want their man to dominate them ie. be the Alpha, but they all run the subroutine to collect and hold the food groups of power in the family. The big two: Money and time and the other three sex, chores and life direction. Alpha men keep control of the primary food groups, the one who controls three or more food groups controls the relationship and the family. You will need to get some control back from her get your marriage on track. I'm still working on that and have a long way to go to be red pill alpha. I hope this helps.

[–]donedreadpirateRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Anger? Lift weights and read with a fervor unimaginable. Also don't qualify your questions with the type of answers you want, faggot. You have a chance to go through one of the most transformative experiences of your life right now. Don't fuck it up.



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