Hi all, I am new to redpill and would appreciate your advice.
For a little background, I have been married 4 years, beta my whole life. The last month I have started to make changes to my life thanks to what I have learned. We haven't had sex since a miscarriage, which was a few weeks ago. A lack of sex life, with her lack of communication, and realizing that what I was doing was not improving things drove me to search for answers which led me to the red pill. I have read NMMNG, and half of the wiki, and I am reading for hours a day. I have started to lift weights for a few weeks, and have started to get bigger as a result. I'm still tall and skinny, but my arms/shoulders are growing thanks to weights. I am going to read Married Man Sex Life Primer next.
At first I went a little rambo, and overdid the jerk. I was a jerk, but not the fun guy, so therefore an asshole. I am trying to find the best balance.
Something happened on the weekend that I would like advice on how to handle, as in my mind there are two possible paths to go in this situation.
Sunday is normally my day to cook dinner. I had previously organised to hang out with the guys for the first time in a while for on Sunday.
On the day of the hang out when my wife learned that I wouldn't be home to make dinner, she flipped. She saw it as me shirking my responsibilities, without leading to organise something else. I didn't realise it would be such a big deal.
She has basically done silent treatment on me since Sunday. I have tried to ignore her, and go about doing work, showing that her mood doesn't affect me. Questions will get one word flat answers from her. On Monday and Tuesday night she was out at the library, and not home until 9pm. Now that it is Wednesday, I learn that she is planning on being out again. I know her friend is studying for an English test coming up so she is being honest about where she is.
Today I told her that I want her to be home, and that she has spent enough time out. She replied that she has already organised to be helping her friend. So I told her to reschedule, it's not that hard. Her response was "no thanks."
I am of two minds of what to do - I can continue to show outcome indifference, and just say "lol ok whatever". Or I can leave work early and catch her before she leaves to confront her and show dominance.
How long do you guys tolerate silent treatment? When do you decide enough is enough? I am pretty sure she could go on weeks like this, if nothing changes.
Thanks in advance.