Hi guys. I've read NMMNG, MMSLP and am getting through the rest of the content in the right panel, so I'm still new (a few weeks in). All very interesting stuff.
One thing I've started to notice (and write down) is the morning routine of my wife. Absolutely everything that comes out of her mouth before I leave for work is negative.
- If she has to hold the baby while she does something in the kitchen, she mentions is out loud
- If she can't have her breakfast right then, she mentions it out loud
- If she has to make the kids lunches for school, she mentions it out loud
Now, you might think I do nothing in the morning - but I dress at least one of our kids, most days make their lunches, am present and with the kids until I leave the house, helping out, doing my part (and honestly, most days more than 50% of the morning work).
EVEN when nothing has been said (I'm downstairs with the kids and she comes down after), the first thing out of her mouth is always negative or a complaint.
It's really 1) depressing, 2) bad for my kids and 3) annoying me. I'm a positive person. I LOVE the mornings with the kids before work, help out every day, etc, etc. I've started making changes based on the books listed here but it's only a few weeks in.
Just looking for an outside perspective on this. Not blaming her, happy to hear "it's you dude", etc, but would love some wisdom on this and what to do about it.