I've been working on being more of that awesome fun guy that does stuff with my wife instead of sitting around weekends working or watching TV. I'll lead her to a spontaneous adventure in the city trying to game her. I think like "what would I do if I were dating some hottie" and try to do that with my wife. The intention is to increase attractiveness and get the tingles going.

I've had covert contracts before, but not recently, so I don't see this as an issue. So when I initiate and get a hard no, I usually go off somewhere else in the house, not butt hurt, and do something.

My question is, the next 2 days, should I still be that awesome fun spontaneous attractive guy that takes her out somewhere, using kino and game, or would that just reward shitty behavior? Or do I work on my own thing for 2 days and don't give her attention like this? I'm at dread level 5.

I think I know the answer (fuck yeah don't reward shitty behavior) but would appreciate any input.

Side note--I don't agree with going to the gym when you get a hard no. Just go do something on your own, whatever you want. You should have a strict program/schedule with structure for lifting and stick to it regardless of what she does or doesn't do. Who cares about her, it's really for you so do it right, not just when you feel butt hurt. Just my opinion folks, agree or disagree, doesn't matter to me.