Married for 8 years, together for 10. 3 kids. Actively started changing my life using what I've read in the side bar on the 13 of July 2017. Lifting 4x week, 6'1" at 19.3% BF. Read MMSLP, NMMNG and WISNIFG. I am reading MMSLP again.
I am having a hard time understanding frame. I am interpreting frame is how one carries themselves emotionally and how they behave. Like a set of rules or thought processes that you feel will bring the most control over what you can control. Yet, it also appears that frame may also change from situation to situation (my frame with my kids is different from frame I have when I speak with my boss). To further complicate things is frame is also based on your MAP. I've seen post trying to explain the different pillars that comprise frame (emotional, physical, etc).
Is frame an unifying set of principles that is applied universally for any event that you may experience. For example, applying the philosophy of Stoicism when dealing with family, kids, career and relationships? Or is frame a compartmentalized set of behaviors that you selected, that may adjust depending whatever event happens. For example, your MAP says you'll be more assertive, so the way you act assertively with your kids is much different when you act assertively to your boss.
How does your frame relate to your MAP?
On a personal note, when dealing with my wife I do try to act less butthurt. When I was really nervous about a medical procedure, but I acted confident and cracked jokes about it and made her laugh. Because of this when I initiated sex she was happy to participate. But I act butthurt all the time at work and with my kids. What practices or directions do you all suggest?