Your opinion of open marriages?

cholomite · 2017-07-24T12:10:16+00:00

An open marriage is cuck tier shit if you ask me. Women will naturally lose respect for a man who still loves and provides for a woman who is getting slammed by other guys. She will know you're only sticking around because your trapped and don't have the balls to leave. A real man would just say "fuck it" and leave her ass.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-07-24T15:31:03+00:00

/r/redpillnonmonogamy

Red Pill on Satan Mode.

As Athol Kay wrote: If you are gonna swing, you better be the biggest dick in the room.

If you are talking open marriage as in the wife picks up girls for threesomes and more then I am on board with that. If the wife is screwing other guys, there is only ONE way it plays out.

Wife goes on dates and get's railed by a series of cocks for 6 months to a year.

Husband suffers in silence or enjoys the putrid taste and smell of well used pussy. Then Husband- after sitting at home sobbing and crying for 6 months or more finally finds a girlfriend.

Suddenly Wife realizes that she doesn't want to be passed around and slammed like a sour whiskey bottle and also realizes that NOW wife and husband are on equal footing.

Of course "equality" cannot stand! Wife says we are no longer swinging. Dump your sluttly little girlfriend who is giving you the first good sex you have ever had.

Wife engages in 1-2 weeks of passionate sex with husband and then cuts him off again. Wife makes up for it by periodically going out to get railed. Husband dumps girlfriend and sits at home fapping for the rest of his life.

The End.

The_Litz · 2017-07-24T12:33:22+00:00

When a woman tells you they want to have an open marriage it means 1 of two things.

She grants you freedom to have outside relations because she can't fulfill you. It is woman speak for 'I want a divorce but I am waiting for you to initiate the divorce'. Women don't want to be the bad guy in the story. It will backfire in the long run because somewhere you will transgress some or other rule you agreed upon with your wife and you then 'cheated'.
She can't wait to get some strange in her. She is not low libido, she is low libido for you. So once again, you lose because you will be some other dudes cuck. She could already have someone in mind, and wants to swing to another branch but wants you to be her backup plan.

People often have this open minded idea about open marriages. The feel very progressive and cool. In reality it is just two people who do not have the guts to pull the plug on a marriage on life support.

And I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I cheated

Yet an open marriage is not cheating because you have permission.......rrrriiight.

[deleted] · 2017-07-24T14:56:13+00:00

I love women in open marriages.

they are fun.

tacko276 · 2017-07-24T13:24:26+00:00

This is simple She will have a lot of sex And you will have a lot of free time

askmeanything2 · 2017-07-24T12:40:26+00:00

Do not do an open marriage unless you are at dread 11 or 12

Don't try the quick fix, there is none

nastynickdr · 2017-07-24T14:51:30+00:00

Its a great deal for the woman, bad deal for the man.

The man will have to endure all the downsides of marriage, like having to deal with her drama, family problems, provide to her, support her, give her time/attention/affection, deal with PMS and bitchiness, constant shit testing, nagging, fix shit, financial problems, etc etc, while getting a bit of starfix sex from her once in a while after Chad used all her holes as he wanted, and if for some reason hubby wants to be out he will lose half his shit and potentially have to pay alimony / child support for who knows how long. Not to mention that if you have kids they are not going to grow in a healthy and stable environment.

For the woman is a great deal. She gets the upsides of being married/having commitment, she can post on facebook photos of her happy family, she has her safe BB to provide to her and deal with all her problems, support her, provide to her, and she can fuck any Chad she has the hots for whenever she wants. Chad will use all of her holes as he wishes and send her back to her hubbys home when hes done. She starts giving shit to Chad? Chad ninja bombs the fuck out of there. Hubby on the other hand loses half his shit and endures endless drama if he wants to do the same.

So basically you are paying a high price to have a slut in your home. Its a good deal for the wife, for Chad, Brad, Jamal and Daquan, and its a bad deal for hubby.

And remember that you cant outslut a slut. You can be a 9 and your wife a 6 and she can be fucking a different guy every day of the week if she wishes, all she has to do is be willing to spread her legs.

Bottom line: you want an open relationship? Spin plates. Or have a open LTR where you dont live together with her and have no strings attached (which is basically the same as spinning plates but you tell people she is you GF). Take your plate to a swing house or something, watch her get ravaged by big black cocks or whatever your kink is, then drop her off and go back to your place, and if you want out you can just dissapear without risking losing half of your shit.

rocknrollchuck · 2017-07-24T13:33:00+00:00

I thought /u/red-curious had a great perspective on the whole "getting sex from outside sources while married" thing here.

[deleted] · 2017-07-24T14:05:34+00:00

Hahahahaha, your wife will be plowed by her favourite Chad and if you are lucky you will fuck a HB6 and your wife will punish you for it. You will be lucky if it even works out that well for you. If you are the sort of guy who needs to ask, then you are screwed. Like they say in high end stores, "if you need to ask the price, you can't afford it".

Schlippery_Schlong · 2017-07-24T12:33:01+00:00

Great! You can work on your dread game while she's fucking Chad.

chachaChad · 2017-07-24T12:44:05+00:00

You're in a bad situation and you've come up with perhaps the shittiest solution for yourself that is possible because you're too afraid of doing what you really want to do.

An open marriage is a bad deal for you and a great deal for her. She gets all the benefits of you (money, security, time etc.) while you're left to fend for yourself for sex, companionship and love. Once you do find a female willing to bang you, which won't be easy because you won't be bringing much to the table, you won't be able take full advantage of her. Your relationship with your wife will deteriorate quickly on both sides once all the bad feelings between you and her get triggered.

Don't cheat. Don't open the marriage. Fix yourself first then do what you want.

mrpthrowa · 2017-07-24T12:53:59+00:00

Open on your side only.

Red-Curious · 2017-07-24T17:17:14+00:00

In addition to the comment I made that /u/rocknroll chuck linked to, there are a few more reasons why an open marriage is a terrible idea.

The biggest one is that you're giving her a blanket invitation to turn her hypergamy back on. When you're in a committed relationship, hypergamy looms in the background, but is often outweighed by the fact that a divorce will decrease her SMV and lower her position in the FSM, as well as from an enjoyment of the beta comforts she receives in the marriage/LTR.

A woman can raise her SMV really fast when some of these threats aren't present or have a psychological impact on her. Although you might be a 7 right now and she might be a 6, with a little makeup, some sexy moves, and that little black dress, she might be dolled up to an 8 and will be pulling better men than you.

In fact, in virtually all marriages, "The grass is always greener." If your SMV hasn't gone up drastically beyond hers, you're probably going to be pulling women on-par with your wife/LTR, but you'll enjoy it more because of the newness of it. You might find people slightly higher. But she's going to realize just how high her heights can go. If you're going to do an open relationship (which I never recommend), it'll almost always backfire if you do it before she turns 40. Even a little post-wall, she can doll herself up a lot faster than you can.

If it helps, I had a client who went this route-ish. He and his wife were very sexually active, but it just wasn't enough for him. So, they started doing threesomes. They began with FFM at first, but she eventually persuaded him that it wasn't fair, so he brought another dude in the picture. One month later, his stuff is on the street, the new guy is living in his house, and he's calling me to handle his divorce. Don't be an idiot. Don't be that guy, whether it's through threesomes or an open relationship. It never works.

smokecheck1976 · 2017-07-25T10:48:26+00:00

It's a dumb idea.

Your wife is into you and having sex with you? No? Why are other women going to want to have sex with you?

Further, I have never seen an open marriage arrangement that was stable. The only time I have ever seen one last was when the partners ended the open part of the marriage and went through some serious counseling. This is even if your wife will agree to it, which I can almost guarantee that she won't.

You have other questions that require more immediate attention. You say you have a dead bedroom. Okay, why is that? An ephemeris message from her saying "she wants more sex, too" is basically a throw comment on her end with no statement of why things are the way they are. Were things always this way? If they were, then you are looking at a libido mismatch and one of you is going to resent the other, usually the partner that wants more.

The good new is that if they weren't, then there are other issues to look at. What is her routine like? What can you change to give her a little more free time so that she may feel more in the mood. Are you spending enough time with her otherwise? How is your communication with her? What I am getting at is "Is this relationship toxic?" and if so "What can you do to eliminate your part of the toxicity?" Start there.

If you improve your part and how you act toward her, and believe me that won't be easy, and you fail to see the improvements that you need in the marriage for your happiness then you can think of other plans. Is the relationship with your wife the one that you want your kids to model? What is the long term cost to you, in more than just financial considerations, of staying in an expired relationship? Figure those questions out for yourself, but work on your interactions in the relationship first.

straius · 2017-07-24T15:26:06+00:00

Damn guys. I went into this suspecting that it was a bad deal- but now I can see that it's not like that at all. It would be worse than a nightmare you couldn't wake up from. It's so easy to think of something like an open marriage and immediately start imagining how awesome it would go for me. But I can clearly see that's a very one dimensional view. Marriage is hard enough without that shit.

UEMcGill · 2017-07-24T13:59:38+00:00

Redpill is amoral and above all, pragmatic. u/RPSigmaStigma runs the r/RedPillNonMonogamy sub, so there are some that do it.

But the hidden message in all of what these guys are saying is this, you need iron frame. You need to have your shit together so well and be such a high value man that you can pull women and manage the woman you have, plus manage all the chads she has on the side (or even worse beta orbiters).

If my life had taken a different direction, and I got divorced, I know I would not be monogamous. I can see the appeal of a series of LTR's (or semi-committed relationships), with some side plates. But, and this is a big one, the option to let the LTR demote to a plate would be there.

In an open marriage your wife will still be (and should be) vying for head plate so to speak. This comes with pitfalls and a fuck ton of shit testing, comfort testing and the like.

Most men are simply incapable of the kind of effort you need to do this. Plus on a pure value proposition, I can't see how the effort couldn't be spent more wisely.

FlyingSexistPig · 2017-07-24T20:31:39+00:00

"open marriage" means SHE gets to fuck whomever she wants. You're not getting anything from it.

She has a beta to pay all her bills and a buck to fuck her til she sees stars. Why would you think this is a good idea for you?

FlyingSexistPig · 2017-07-24T20:38:01+00:00

If you have a dead bedroom situation, then an open marriage won't fix that problem.

The problem is you. You need to improve yourself. She's not attracted to you and that's the problem.

screechhater · 2017-07-24T21:35:52+00:00

Read the sidebar and do your best to correct you and I mean your best

Then let it lay If she wants to add value back into the relationship then she will, if she doesn't then move on

Open relationships are bullshit and it's not a win win

She will have the opportunity to fuck @ will. You will not Don't ever forget that

sh0ckley · 2017-07-28T16:21:18+00:00

A literal cluster fuck.

I wouldn't be interested an in open marriage.

Title	Your opinion of open marriages?
Author	covertcontractor
Upvotes	6
Comments	39
Date	24 July 2017 11:57 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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