So my woman is leaving on a trip this weekend (left this morning actually), and was doing some packing last night. One of her 'tasks' was to create a music playlist on her phone using spotify for her girls trip. I tried to lay down with her for a bit after dinner and before the gym, but she was on her phone so I left to do some chores. I cam back 30 min later and she's still on her phone. I tell her to get ready for the gym as I change in front of her and she says "I'm almost done" (she was already in her gym clothes). I let her know she's been working on this for 30 min, and that we need to go to the gym. I go to the door, put my shoes on, grab my stuff and yell "I'll see you at the gym". She says "Just give me more time!". So I walk to the bathroom, have a pee, see her still sitting on the bed on her phone, so I walk out of the house and go to the car. She opens the window to say that "I can wait for her" or something along those lines so I chuckle and give her a "Chop chop!". I get in the car. I start the car. I sit in the car for 3 min (I know this because I was staring at the clock aha) and then I drove away.
I get a text while I'm in the gym parking lot about how she's pissed I left her, I'm a shitty person for starting a fight the night before she leaves, and a "See how well this works for you!". I text her back that I would love it if she joined me at the gym, and that we're doing legs! (It's her favourite). Then I put my phone away and go work out. Now, I'll be honest, I wasn't feeling the greatest in the gym at first, but the longer I was in there, I just started to feel good about setting a boundary (When I say I'm going, I'm going) and I felt like a man who was operating from his own frame and, surprisingly, I wasn't mad at her?! I felt so good, that I was actually happy to go home and be with my woman after I was done in the gym, despite the events of the last two hours. Normally I mentally hate her for a few hours after we fight or something, but this time felt much different.
When I got home I pretended as if nothing had happened, talked about my sore legs, and for the most part she was talkative and normal, though you could tell she wasn't 100%. When she mentioned me leaving her in non-direct ways, why am I so mean to her, I just ignored her etc. I made mention of "Maybe you'll move a little quicker next time" once when she asked me directly about it, but that was it. Then I boned her twice this morning before she left for her trip.
So....is this "I feel good" thing from operating in my own frame? Because I like it, and it's the first time she's gotten angry and my response wasn't anger and thoughts of "Why am I with you?".