So my wife doesn't really go out much, doesn't drink much, etc.
She has one friend who is married and lately whenever they get together my wife drinks more than she should and comes home later than she says she will/is usual.
Once about a month ago she said she'd be home around midnight. I got home around 130 and she wasn't home yet. I called her and she came home.
Another time, with the same friend, she went out to dinner. Around 11 she shows up at home drunk. Last night she goes to a happy hour with her friends, says she'l staying for an hour (until 8pm). Around 9pm she calls me saying she's going to dinner. I tell her she needs to take out the dog since I didn't given that she said she'd be home. She hangs up on me and doesn't get home til close to 11.
So today, she was all excited about our trip that we've been planning for a few weeks. I flat out told her I am not going. She asked why and I said because I'm not.
Am I overreacting here? I feel bad because she was looking forward to it but at the same time I don't see how to get through to her that she can't be late all the fucking time.