There have been a few posts lately with the wife communicating some manner of permission for the guy to see/fuck/whatever other women; up to and including this post with the marriage terminating. There was another--can't remember where--talking about the wife bringing up the NYT article from late May about open marriages to the husband. Trying to interpret my woman in this regard...
Quick background: 34M/32F, no kids, barely married a year, generally DB unless I go out of my way to initiate(she won't hard no, will starfish), busy professionals, etc. I'm upping the kino, trying to be more flirty with her, etc but its one way and if I don't initiate she doesn't in any form. I'm pretty sure she's half checked out of the marriage but still acts girly, asks my opinion, tries to plan shit together, etc. Roommates punctuated with some affection. She is, however, extremely insecure with herself, stressed due to work, and a little overweight.
I'm still early in the MRP process for 6-8 weeks; lifting again, working through sidebar, better at holding frame & STFU/anti-butthurt, better at being busy/out and doing things I enjoy, building a new social network, flirting, all that. Long way to go and focused on execution.
A month ago she brought up the open marriage article after a dinner date (and a few drinks) and stated the following:
"You need someone who can support you emotionally" Interpretation: you're a whiny little bitch and I can't handle you. I got the hint loud and clear: work on STFU/Butthurt/Frame/Oak ASAP Turning point on that front.
"I wouldn't be mad if you fucked some other girl."
I replied something in the negative saying if that's the case we should end the marriage because I'm not interested in that. Probably DEER'd, whatever. She was unfazed, I got butthurt but hid it, night went on.
A week or two later: "You're too good of a guy for me, blah blah blah." I forgot what I replied with initially but ended up telling her she was a hottie and kissed her.
Yesterday I'm packing a duffel bag and she asks what I'm doing. Reply I'm going trail running after work tomorrow(today), she responds "Sounds fun, you should bring a friend." I totally miss the emphasis on friend and made some joke about an autistic guy runner friend of mine, she LOL'd, end of it. She was referring to a female friend, went straight over my head, missed opportunity for some better response.
I'm having trouble differentiating whether this is massive insecurity bubbling up on her end as a comfort test, a shit test, or if this is some early iteration of the Please End It phenomenon that seems to be going around here lately. Given her demeanor of standoffish but receptive to affection I'm not entirely sure she's totally asking for the latter but frankly I have no idea.