Wife: "I can't have sex with you - I feel not secure yada yada" (translate: you are not attractive to me at all)
Wife: "I know you would like to have sex, so you could see other women if I am not enough, but don't tell me about it."
Me: "Yeah - I wan't a marriage with sex or no marriage at all not some half assed bullshit."
For Clarification: I was not negotiating sex - the convo was about her moving out and ending the marriage.
I a not sure if this is a bluff on her side. But what else does she bring to the table in the end? I handle my chores and I bet it would be cheaper to pay someone to clean the house than providing for my wife.
I guess she wants an easy way out, without loosing access.
She always tells me that she likes me an she is interested in me and don't want to break up communications in case we break up.
But this is bullshit. Who needs that crap from an ex wife, like calling on birthdays or something. I don't get how she would want something like this.
Things I figured out:
- I am unattractive to her
- I am not a fun person to be around at least for her
- I have to slow down the pace and have to read
- I have to socialize and talk to every person just to get social skills going.
The thing I have not figured out:
What is the reasoning behind the statement?
Why would she like me to fuck other girls? Just to see if I would do it? Or is this a shit test? Comfort test? Her easy way out? IDK
On the notion on her beeing unfaithfull
I am maybe making excuses for my little snowflake. The reasoning behind my doubts is this: Things are fucked up since our daughter died 2 years ago. I failed handling the situation correctly and I got deep into a depression. So she got into the savior syndrome. Take it with a grain of salt - you know my posts and I am prone to fuck up. What she is telling me is that sex is a problem for her if she can't trust someone and she doesn't even think about going trough all the trouble again - after having dealt with me. I believe her.
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