Over the past 6 months I’ve been lifting, eating healthy, and building a much stronger frame. It was incredibly weak for a while there but I felt my frame really reach a new level about 30 days ago when I just stopped caring about her feelings at all. This might be a little too extreme but it really got my frame calibrated to a much stronger place than it had been for quite some time.
During my MAP I have steadily increased the whole foods that are incorporated into my diet. It’s a pain in the ass to go to the grocery store at least once a week, and it’s a bigger pain in the ass to have to cook all my own meals, but I’ve made this a new part of my lifestyle. Over this period, the wife has fluctuated from supportive to pissed based on her mood or what I cooked etc.
We have a big trip planned this summer to an exotic location that will include lots of beach time, and we recently got a new scale in our bathroom. My wife came out of the bathroom a couple of weeks ago and said:
W: “Do you think the scale is broken?”
M: “No, its new”
W: “Well it says im ### lbs. The other scale said I weighed less. The most I’ve every weighed is ###. Do you think I need to lose 5 lbs?”
So, this is just the worst question I think any guy could ever be asked. I literally stared at her for a good 3 seconds and then just said it…
M: “That’s a good starting point” I didn’t laugh after I said it. I wasn’t trying to be mean, but it is what it is. I just maintained eye contact and then she gasped (half smiling strangely enough) and said
W: “What does that mean?”
M: “It means it’s a good starting point. You can easily lose 5 lbs by the trip and I’ll help you if you want it”
Fast forward to the end of that day, and I’m putting together her meals for work the next day. And on days she doesn’t work, I prep breakfast, come home for lunch and cook lunch, and lay out her mid day snack and then I cook dinner. The other day she even made a comment that was basically “I’ve wanted to lose weight but never could do it by myself”. WTF? Where was this 6 fucking months ago?
MRP is right with the assessment that they will bitch and moan but eventually they act like it was their idea. And at times I feel pretty beta prepping all her meals, but if that’s what it takes to make her eat better then so be it. I’ve wanted my wife to lose weight as long as I’ve known her. She was always a little big for my taste, but she has so many other amazing qualities that I didn’t want to let her go for that reason. I really thought over time she would figure it out. Wrong. When I started this journey I did it because I wanted better sex and wanted her to get in better shape. After 4 months of my MAP I gave up on her ever following my lead and was legitimately doing it just for me from that point on.
Not that I had many doubts about MRP accuracy, but when something you’ve read about and heard about for some time finally manifests itself right in front of you, (that being that the woman will follow you when your smv begins to rise or she at least calibrates with the new normal) it feels really good. I know this isn’t the sort of field report where a guy finally gets his wife to try fisting midgets because he’s ALPHA, but this shit does work and more importantly, it will improve your life and the lives of people that associate with you, in my experience. Good luck