PreMRP and when I was first starting to get it on with the ladies I was an exemplar nice guy: my satisfaction in bed came from my ability to give her pleasure, and reciprocity (while desired) was ignored in favour of whatever tidbits I was getting.
Fast forward to now: I still derive great pleasure from giving her pleasure, but in a much more dominant attitude and setting, namely from taking control in bed and fucking her good (when she cums, it's rare I don't give her orgasm some friends).
So a concern of mine recently has been that while my girl will spread her legs every day or so, she only gets off about half of those times. I'm into it, loving it, but she's just elsewhere so I when I start grinding against her (for her pleasure) to try and get her involved and having fun, I get something along the lines of "I'm so wet I can't feel a thing" or "This ones all about you".
Most of the times I chuckle, give her a "Aren't you the sweetest"/"It's ALWAYS about me" with a grin and a kiss, I finish up (usually caveman), she wants to cuddle for a bit, then we go about our day...but yesterday it really cut me up (yeah yeah, I'm in her frame).
My problem (as I see it) is that I shouldn't be using her as a source of validation. It should come from within. ...but when she's coming down off of multiple orgasms, head on your chest, panting "thank you", it certainly puts a grin on MY face.
My question then: is this normal with you gentleman in your relationships? Are my expectations too high for my girlfriend to be screaming on my cock once a day? It's obvious that she is willing to put in at least some effort to maintain
the sexual side of our relationship, so I do see that as a positive, though MRP culture definitely cultivates the thought that: she would be more into sex with you/spread her ass cheeks for you/swallow your cum with a big smile/etc. if ONLY YOU WERE A BETTER MAN, because AWALT, and you're not Chad yet ...with the cursory "YMMV" thrown in there somewhere.
UPDATE: similar thing happened this morning: lazy sat. morning sex, she's dripping like a damn faucet, and says she can't feel a thing. After a bit, I get between her legs and use my mouth. Mix it up. She goes "you know I can't feel a thing right?" to which I respond "Who said this was about you?" and go back to enjoying her freshly shaved pussy. What happens within the next 15 seconds? Whose hips start rising off the bed because she wants to cum? Mmmhmm.
So either she needed to have the pressure taken off that I was doing this for her pleasure, or she needed some foreplay, either way, I enjoyed teasing the fuck out of her before letting her cum.