Here is what just happened and brought me here. My wife will often cook enough for dinner and for me to have lunch the next day or we eat the leftovers the next day. Sometimes she doesn't account for how big my appetite is and I'll have to eat more. Yes I work out, no I'm not bored eating, no I'm not fat.
About 20 mins after dinner the nagging hunger didn't go away so I walk in kitchen to see how much she cooked, if its packed for lunch, next day, whatever. Open the fridge and she calls from next room.
Wife: Don't you dare eat any more, its for tomorrow's dinner!
Me: (I laugh) Oh yes mother, I'll be sure not to touch it. (As I see how much there actually is before I cook some eggs.)
Wife: (She storms into the kitchen.) Your just like my dad and you always do this. You eat too much then I have to eat less the next day.
Me: I'll eat everything that is left over if I feel like it and you will cook more again tomorrow. Do not fucking tell me what I am allowed to do.
Wife: No I won't. You can cook for yourself then.
Me: No, you'll cook. (Then I left the kitchen and took a shower.)
She stomped around angry for a bit while I was in the shower then while I was working on something in the kitchen. Some time later she is acting somewhat normal and complained about one of her relatives to me.
This doesn't feel like a win. I didn't FOG, NA, or NQ like I think I'm supposed to. I don't want to agree with anything she says. I didn't plan on making tomorrow harder by eating everything. I was going to cooks some eggs like I always do. But it feels like she got her way because I did what she told me to even though it was what I was planning anyways. Also I let the argument happen so that fucks my frame right? But if I don't challenge it if feels like I would just be quiet and do what she said. I'm very confused and not sure how to feel.