A little background on me and my wife. She is mid 30's very attractive, in great shape and typically is a pleasant person. I have two young kids with her. I am early/mid 40's and overall consider myself to be an attractive man. I own a highly successful development company and hold am on the village council for the suburb my wife and I live in. I have interesting hobbies, dress well, and am well liked and respected within our community. I am out of shape though. I am about 30 pounds overweight. I am working on it though, but I still dress nicely.
The problem is my wife and have not been having sex as frequently as I find to be necessary. Typically, twice a month for the past year or so. This has me very irritated. My question is: Is it appropriate to curtail the money I give to her unless I get the quantity of sex I want? All my businesses are held in trusts and I also had her sign a prenup even though I personally hold almost no assets. My wife typically weekly spa trips, shopping, expensive lunches and dinners, and we typically take a short trip for just the two of us every two months. Would it be okay to eliminate some of these privileges until the sex increases?