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Is it wrong for me to use my money to get what I want from my wife?

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June 1, 2017

A little background on me and my wife. She is mid 30's very attractive, in great shape and typically is a pleasant person. I have two young kids with her. I am early/mid 40's and overall consider myself to be an attractive man. I own a highly successful development company and hold am on the village council for the suburb my wife and I live in. I have interesting hobbies, dress well, and am well liked and respected within our community. I am out of shape though. I am about 30 pounds overweight. I am working on it though, but I still dress nicely.

The problem is my wife and have not been having sex as frequently as I find to be necessary. Typically, twice a month for the past year or so. This has me very irritated. My question is: Is it appropriate to curtail the money I give to her unless I get the quantity of sex I want? All my businesses are held in trusts and I also had her sign a prenup even though I personally hold almost no assets. My wife typically weekly spa trips, shopping, expensive lunches and dinners, and we typically take a short trip for just the two of us every two months. Would it be okay to eliminate some of these privileges until the sex increases?

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Title Is it wrong for me to use my money to get what I want from my wife?
Author throwaway3420j
Upvotes 7
Comments 34
Date 01 June 2017 12:13 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red21 points22 points  (12 children) | Copy

All your fantastic business success doesn't do anything to generate tingles. Those are all Beta traits.

Cutting your wives allowance thinking she will make the mental connection it is due to sex will not register, and if you explain it overtly will lower your sex even more.

Your fat, you spend money eating out all the time. Been there and done that. Making your own meals is sexy and can present endless opportunities for Kino and game execution. If you know what those are, which you don't since your sex life sucks.

If you want to get laid more you need to develop alpha traits and learn how to game your wife. You are predicable and boring and it doesn't matter how expensive lunch is, my money is on it's at the same three places all the time.

My wife has a $600 a month beauty allowance because we fuck 5 plus times a week and she has earned it. She busts her ass with the kids and homework and allows me to focus on what I need to. She compliments my life so she gets treated well. When I have fallen on hard times in the past and had to tighten the belt for a while did she complain? No because she isn't an entitled prostitute which is how you describe your special snowflake.

Own tossing your money down the drain on a woman who clearly doesn't deserve it because she is married to a man that doesn't get it. Read the side bar and keep your supposed business success to yourself. No one is going to validate those success and they sure as hell won't make your wives vagina wet.

[–]throwaway3420j[S] 1 point2 points  (11 children) | Copy

I see your point, however the thing that confuses me is that other women are clearly attracted to me as they flirt with me. Perhaps it would work to discretely do this in front of my wife?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am 38 and you are early 40's. If you have read The Rational Male Preventive Medicine and read Rollos work you would know that women in our age bracket are looking for long term stability and provisioning first are foremost and looks come second.

You probably look dapper in a properly tailored Tom Ford, as I did when I was over weight. However once the suit is off and your naked and your wife sees it, we'll have you stood in front of a mirror and asked yourself if YOU would fuck YOU?

Those other women are attracted to your status, story and the tailored suit. They want what your woman has from a provider standpoint. If you are walking on the beach topless and you have 25 year olds hanging off your arms then you have a great thing called Dread working for you.

Trust me when I say I was in your shoes 7 years ago. Making more money than I knew what to do with but knew nothing of game, Kino or how to get my wife to fuck me like when we were high school sweethearts.

Yeah sex was always there, but I wanted better sex. So I trimmed up, learned game, Kino and how to make the sexual tension between the wife and I palpable. Now it's like breathing.

Get up at 5:30 and get to the gym. Start cleaning up your diet and if you want to eat out as much as you say you do then start making better choices when eating out. Start ordering things wo the bun or no fries or potatoes. Head over to the keto Reddit and learn how to do lazy keto. I travel a lot for work so I have learned this and can apply it when we eat out.

You already have a sunk cost with the wive and her beauty allowance. To pull that back is so weak and has covert contract all over it I wanna throw up.

Start working on gaming your wife TODAY. Get off Reddit and find her and try a 10 second kiss. Right now go and do it. And if she laughs try again later. Go slap her ass or tickle her.

Do this every day like you will start going to the gym every day and gaming her every day. Hit the sidebar and read. Your a smart dude this should be easy.

It is very easy to be alpha in business but beta at home. You probably have both inside you so just bring it out.

[–]hibloodstevia1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Those other women can't tell what a bitch you are - or they can, and they see you as a potential wallet.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Damn, somebody should write an entire book about this idea.....l

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Appreciate you doing all the work for me ;)

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

my wife and have not been having sex as frequently as I find to be necessary.

You're fat and you aren't gaming her/creating a sexually charged environment

This has me very irritated.

Not enough to get in shape apparently.

Would it be okay to eliminate some of these privileges until the sex increases?

"I'm taking your things away until you have sex with me"

Attraction is non-negotiable

[–]hibloodstevia3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

So . . . you want to be married to a prostitute?

[–]throwaway3420j[S] -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

No, I just feel I shouldn't reward poor behavior.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yet you got fat and want her to reward that with sex. See the irony yet?

[–]hibloodstevia2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

So, where did you read on the sidebar about paying your wife for sex?

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yet you already do.


[–]ParadoxThatDrivesUs8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's young and fit. You're old and fat. Shit ain't rocket science.

[–]atlhartRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy


It's obvious from your post you haven't even looked at it. Why should we help you if you can't help yourself?

The sidebar will inform you. Read.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why do you want to take away from and punish the woman who takes care of herself ?

She does her duty once a month. Think about it. Duty. So how about you improve so it's not a chore for her

She signed a pre nup. So something is obviously there.

How about getting up early walk a hilly circuit, the repeat lunch and after dinner. Throw some 5x5 strong lifting in there and cut the crap out of the diet and make your body look like a models ? It's really not that hard.

While transforming your body +|- 60-120 days, work on the sidebar readings. Then, the tables will turn.

Let go of the hating anger of rejection and turn that into a long lasting deal of epic proportions.

How's this- take care of you - not the money side, but physical and watch Shit change. Take the time about an hour a day, maybe a little more and with lifting that you stack your loads until plateauing, see dramatic change in her and how you look and feel about yourself

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd rather have my wife screw me because she craves the D. But try your way and let us know how it plays out

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

Better question. Why are you paying her not to fuck you?

Worst prostitute, ever.

Or perhaps you paid for uterus loan? In that case, how long was her surrogate duties for? Setup a payment plan and pay down early

[–]ParadoxThatDrivesUs11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

Did we delete the part of the sidebar where it says not to be a fat fuck? Lately seems like guys keep burying it like its some irrelevant detail.

[–]atlhartRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fat acceptance movement. It's fucking up our society.

[–]weakandsensitive4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm with stone.

You're paying a ton of money for your wife for her not to fuck you - spas, vacations, etc. I mean, weekly spa trips, wtf? I'm sure Chad Thundercock appreciates it.

It would be cheaper for you to cut her spa trips and pay for a hooker instead. You'd be getting fucked more and it would cost you less money.

[–]JohnDenversCoPilot1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe I'm wrong, but cut her funds anyway and use them on yourself. Hire A Personal Trainer, go to the gym, use the money on YOUR needs and wants, value yourself more.

[–]RodSwelling1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'm a newb here and I've come to the realization that I'm a pretty atypical newb. I read both NMMNG, and WISNIFG, but I was never a nice guy and I rarely ever feel guilty about anything. I don't make as much money as you do, and my wife certainly doesn't get weekly spa treatments. But I've told her many times before that I will leave a woman who won't fuck me. According to MRP theory here, this shouldn't work.

We fuck 4-5 times a week, whether she's on the rag or not. About half the time this is duty sex and maybe half the time not.

The other guys here will say this direct approach won't work. But it works for me (mostly) and always has. Why don't you flat out tell her that you refuse to meet any of her needs until she meets yours?

What's the worst thing that could happen?

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I've told her many times before that I will leave a woman who won't fuck me. According to MRP theory here, this shouldn't work.

This is wrong. Direct honesty often works. However we have seen on MRP through many examples that you should become attractive enough that you generate some tingles before you take the direct approach route at level 9 and 10.

If you go into the relationship with this fact known and expressed it works fine because at the beginning you are generating tingles. That's what all that frantic sex is about in the beginning. On MRP we usually deal with men who are deep in the Blue Pill hole and who have become progressively unattractive over years of marriage.

If you only have sex twice a month and after years of this you suddenly announce that you are going to cheat unless you get more action the result is predictable and the battles can be epic and relationship ending. See "Red Pill Rambo" for more.

[–]RodSwelling0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, I really cannot fathom this whole twice a month thing. Why hasn't this guy just up and left? I would never stay in a relationship like that. What is the point?

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

wait, so how much is your wifes pussy costing you?

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Base your payments to the woman based on how much she puts out? That is certainly an honest arrangement that seems vaguely familiar.

However, unless you married a prostitue it is unlikely to work. You want to be more attractive, not pay a prostitute- even if you fucked up by marrying her.

My advice is to use that war chest to hire an actual pro rather than trying to turn a housewife into a ho. It is possible to turn a ho into a housewife and very, very difficult to turn a housewife into a ho but it can be done with patience and discretion. In most cases, after you leave the whirehouse Your lack of neediness will translate into instant tingles unless the wife finds out and her conscious mind overrules her body agenda.

[–]donedreadpirateRed Beret-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuuuuck man. Cut her off. You could say you decided you're spending way too much money on a woman you're not fucking. Straight to the heart. But I'm an asshole. Bear in mind this is a very effective strategy for me.
Edit: oh but I'm a catch, a lot of fun, and attractive. Are you? Maybe you can't do this

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