My wife asked me to buy cigarettes. I said no. I knew she don't had any money left and she would be cold turkey for 2 days.

First she thought I was joking and asked again. I said no. The she asked why. I responded I don't want to buy you cigarettes. She said she had no money left and If I could lend her some. I said no. She asked why. I told her I would like to spend the money on myself. She raged that she was contributing to the house and food and stuff. This made me angry cause I payed her car repair. But I kept quit and told her I have to get off to work.

So for some time there was silence.

Then the texts role in:

I wouldn't take her serious and I am not there for her. I am not sure how to handle this. So I told her I can understand you but I won't buy you cigarettes.

So she tells me that it's never take her serious. This always buffels me. I have no good comeback for this. So I do this from the last post and answering with a lot of you' s

You think I don't care for you. Cause I don't do a little thing like buying cigarettes. It's just so little money. You think this is a power game. You think now that I feel good and I do sports I would leave you for a better version of you. Why isn't he here for me and buy me stuff.

So is this really what it is to you for me to be there for you?

So she tells me that she felt hurt and I would feel this pain

So I ask her about her pain.

And this is when she tells me that she is afraid of me and that she don't want to give me the power over her to hurt her again. She is deeply moved that I understand her but she is now crying at her workplace.

So what I so is this: I take an early break. Get some cigarettes and drive to her workplace. She is totally surprised. I tell her that there are her cigarettes and make ready to leave.

So she stops me and is all over me, ask if I could stay and If we grab a coffee together. I tell her that I really like her if she's that cute and we have a coffee break together

This was 2 days ago and something has shifted. I don't know if this keeps it's momentum but surprisingly this worked out better than being a nice guy and buying cigarettes in he first place