The following is inspired by a recent post that alleges "[Having t]he 'what should we get for dinner' conversation is worse that [sic] putting your balls in a vice." My response to this OP would be: Why are you having this conversation with your wife at all?
I personally eat three meals a day, but regardless of your meal schedule, failing to plan is planning to fail. This is particularly applicable to those who count macros or follow another specialized diet, but is generally applicable to anyone who shares meals with their LTR. The "What should we have for dinner?" conversation is a prime example of an easy way to implement leadership in your relationship.
Naturally, when my finacée and I combined households, we began sharing the majority of our meals together. This meant that the "What should we have for dinner?" conversation was no longer limited to date nights or sleep overs, and was instead occurring every night of the week. And it typically went something like this:
Her: What do you want?
Me: I don't care. Are you craving anything?
Her: Not really. I want what you want. What do you want?
Me: I don't care. Do you want to cook or go out?
Her: Doesn't matter to me. I'm down for anything.
You get the point. At times we would literally write ideas on pieces of paper and picking them out of a bowl at random. This was incredibly annoying and inefficient, because it meant that every night we were going to the grocery store or a busy restaurant. On the worst nights, this discussion ended in an argument with both sides accusing the other of being purposefully indecisive.
I quickly realized that this wasn't simply an example of her being an indecisive woman, but rather her begging to submit to my leadership in this area. She wanted me to decide, because she wanted to please me and I was failing her. Upon realizing my error, I changed course and decided that we would schedule a time to sit down every week and plan out our meals. We would also use this time to make a shopping list, and do our best to limit grocery shopping to one day a week. This would not only save time, but money.
Fast forward, and now we sit down every Saturday and plan out what we would like to have for each meal including breakfast, lunch, dinner and extras for snacks. We create a list and complete our shopping on Sunday mornings. Extra visits to the store are only allowed during the week if something unexpected comes up (guests, work event, party, etc.). This has made both of us happier, and makes week nights seamless as the LTR knows what she needs to cook when she gets home from work. No more guessing games.
When faced with the opportunity to eat out, I only ask once where she would like to go. If she doesn't provide an answer the first time, we go wherever I choose. So, instead of approaching this conversation as a never ending, circular torture, I now look at it as an opportunity to lead.